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Yes, there is a much bigger picture to what you have conveyedCan you at least confirm for me that there is a lot more going on here that they will even begin to understand? As I've been through more than they know.
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Yes, there is a much bigger picture to what you have conveyedCan you at least confirm for me that there is a lot more going on here that they will even begin to understand? As I've been through more than they know.
So why is the witness of others needed?Marriage (properly done) IS a sacramental ceremony: a covenant between God+man+woman.
That was a deplorable response. What does '...Me and my wife had fun before we were married and I wouldn't change anything...', supposed to mean?I have been thinking about this. Me and my wife had fun before we were married and I wouldn't change anything, both me and her never got to let lose like most kids and when we had a chance we did but we always planned to be wed. Though I don't view the marriage license as just piece of paper, it is a key without which you can be shutout of many things. Like for instance if the worst happens and your guy gets injured by law they will not let you in because your not a spouse, there are other things.
That being said I also know of a couple that if they got he marriage license both their Social Security would go way down, so they went to social security and the guy told them to basically shack up. They both could not do that so they went to a Priest and talked to him and he married them right there. So there are benefits and cost for a marriage license but when your young you should try to get legally married if you can. Hope I didn't sound judgemental
To witness that the covenant has been made.So why is the witness of others needed?
Sorry, I thought she posted it was between God the man and the woman. God made covenants without witnesses, made one with Abraham while he was asleep.To witness that the covenant has been made.
You are correct Rita, and thank you for the candor about yourself. My point is, your story is my story too, the difference is, I for sure, and I believe that you are also, not justifying or promoting such behaviour. That is all that I am saying. When AR said 'God only disapproves if it's a one-night-stand', this is where she showed her complacency and irresponsibility on the issue, in my opinion. She's hasn't acknowledged anyone's arguments who disagreed with her actions, not once.I am sorry but there are reasons as to why I will not be adding much to this thread now. Sometimes we see one piece of a puzzle and presume the whole picture, then we are given other pieces of the puzzle and a whole different picture emerges. I am hardly the right one to form any judgements considering I was pregnant before I got married, in all honesty because I got married I felt that I had put things right. It was years later that I dealt with things, but it was linked to forgiveness and not condemnation.
Rita
God made these covenants between him and a human, not between two humans.Sorry, I thought she posted it was between God the man and the woman. God made covenants without witnesses, made one with Abraham while he was asleep.
I didn’t realize AR’s espoused was a predator.God made these covenants between him and a human, not between two humans.
I would think that any legal/contractual agreement requires some sort of witness, whether it's a notary or whatever.
IMO, it's a good idea to have a witness in order to protect both parties, but esp. the woman. I'm all for protecting women from predatory males.
I didn’t realize AR’s espoused was a predator.
There’s way more to marriage than legal protection.He isn't. Neither of us are. Honestly.
I am not so sure I would have acknowledge it all those years ago DNB, as I said it was years later, 30 to be exact, that I really had to self examine the choices I had made. Her situation is more complicated at this moment in time and within some of the comments that have been made their are wrong assumptions about the here and now.You are correct Rita, and thank you for the candor about yourself. My point is, your story is my story too, the difference is, I for sure, and I believe that you are also, not justifying or promoting such behaviour. That is all that I am saying. When AR said 'God only disapproves if it's a one-night-stand', this is where she showed her complacency and irresponsibility on the issue, in my opinion. She's hasn't acknowledged anyone's arguments who disagreed with her actions, not once.
Now one thing that is not needed: all of the Disney princess frillingness. Wanting frilliness is a horrible excuse to postpone marriage.To witness that the covenant has been made.
Well, I hope that you're right, CR, about her being in an extenuating circumstance, but, I'm skeptical. Is her situation so unique that you just can't come out and tell her to stop having illicit sex, and offending God?
Will there be repercussion if they both abstain
where's the argument in favour of her position?
This a ridiculous statement. Surely you KNOW that this isn't what I was saying.I didn’t realize AR’s espoused was a predator.
Ok, thank you Rita.I am not so sure I would have acknowledge it all those years ago DNB, as I said it was years later, 30 to be exact, that I really had to self examine the choices I had made. Her situation is more complicated at this moment in time and within some of the comments that have been made their are wrong assumptions about the here and now.
As I equally said in an earlier post, I have questioned myself the whole issue of marriage in scripture and how we define it now. So I reserve judgement on whether a person is married in Gods eyes through the sexual act.
I don’t have any clear answers, hence why the jury is still out on the matter. I started to re evaluate it when I went though the divorce.
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Ok, Cristo Rei, thank you for the honesty. I will drop it here.Skepticism is me too man... LoL... Thats why i pulled her up like what are you doing... U can't get upset at them cos u didn't tell them and without them knowing it sound strange. All i can give you is my word... Hers and his situations are unique, unfortunate, unwanted and very rare. I feel for them both and hope that they get through this into green pastures with the guidance of the Holy Spirit...
Uh ye there could be, yes its possible... But i can't say anymore
Look its not for me to tell... I do have a simple answer for this but can u let the curiosity go please.
She knows she messed up bringing that here now. An answer to your question there is that they are unable to get married at this point in time, the opportunity isn't available... Please just let it go instead of trying to speculate...
God Bless
I haven’t read all of the posts.This a ridiculous statement. Surely you KNOW that this isn't what I was saying.
Edit: I see that @April_Rose knows that I wasn't saying this. Statements like this, that misrepresent what a person is saying, are only meant to stir up strife.
I haven’t read all of the posts.
Maybe you could tell me what makes this institution acceptable to God?