dchena states, "From cedarheart: God expects us to live in the real world as He put us here.""Love not the world, neither the things that are in the world. If any man love the world, the love of the Father is not in him" (I John 2:15). If you will notice, it states "live in the real world" not your "love" the world as you insenuate."I think he still wants us to make some difficult choices." Still? When and who stopped?"So, Merry Christmas to those of you who are celebrating. And to those who aren't, I admire your integrity." A sure bet slam dunk here! Quite insulting.My children were raised with the word "Integrity" and told that it means doing the right thing even when you don't have to. According to your statement, if I celebrate Christmas, I or no one else who does, has any integrity to admire. You're still judging and deciding that celebrating Christ's Birth is the "wrong difficult choice".Difficult childhood is not an excuse for arrogance. Your apology seemed heartfelt until you slipped in a few of your verbal slugs. It's as if your "real thoughts" leak out a little. Abuse? If you would like to compare childhoods, I can give you a run for your money. I've been abused and traumatized in everyway the word applies. Not all at the same level but be that as it may, abused. So, if you want to use the word "Compassion" that's my middle name. However, I have been forced to learn not to waste it on those who do not give it and then use the word to try to make others feel guilty.My discernment has been fine tuned with Father's influence and your words contradict themselves in many places. I will be the first to apologize but when I do, I will not turn around and repeat the same offense. That dilutes the apology, don't you think?I have been where your at when considering Christmas but NEVER passed judgement on others who thought differently than I did. When I was around others who seemed to be more attentive to the holiday and skip over the meaning of the day and it's true purpose, myself or someone else would subtly and tactfully bring into the atmosphere a sense of solice and reverence and perhaps offer a Thanksgiving Prayer. All agreed and it brought it to the surface that the day was in rememberence of Christ's Birth. As much as there is a "falling away" from real faith, there is also a sense of strengthening of faith occuring. Don't deny yourself from seeing all of the love that is shared and passed on at these times. Yes, it should be done all year round and many people do that also. But for those who don't, it cannot be allowed to take away the "intregity" of their deeds at any time. Most "new" Christians, as you state that you are, are starving for the "meat" of the Scripture. They are humble and in awe of their new found love. They do not come into any type of group and presume to teach what they, themselves have just learned, to those whom have known these things all along. Many of us have been Christians all of our lives and some have not but we all have been studying deeply. No matter what the length of time that has gone by, the most important matter is the knowledge and wisdom one gains as maturing as a Christian.Wisdom is gain by experience and life skills. It's not just knowledge. You must know how to apply that knowledge and use discernment. You have much to learn about communication and compassion and if you are sincere, that will come. Perhaps your familiar with:Romans 12:1 I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service. 2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God. 3 For I say, through the grace given unto me, to every man that is among you, not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think; but to think soberly, according as God hath dealt to every man the measure of faith. So when you respond to me stating, "Cedarheart, you've done absolutely nothing different.", you tell me that I am wasting my time with you. Am I? That's up to you.Cedarhart