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Good Grief ?Grief is never welcomed nor expected. But is grief ever a good experience? Not usually, but it can be made more or less painful by how one is supported or even prepared. We are all on the threshold of some tenuous times rapidly approaching and no doubt there will be some emotional disparage. There are a few steps that can be taken to possibly ease the pain, somewhat.5 Stages of Grief
enial – It can’t be true; shock.Anger – The need to project blame or act out; resentment.Bargaining– An attempt to bargain with God to change the outcome.Depression – Feelings of regret or sorrow over past or present.Acceptance – Finally believing that the event has taken place and cannot be change.Coming to terms with loss is probably the worse type of emotional pain there is. Loss Can Include:Financial, personal belongings, employment, time, physical or mental abilities, and loss of a loved one.Each event is personal and one must experience a certain level of grief. All 5 stages will be experienced and will need to be dealt with regardless of any desire not to. Family and/or friend support is vital and running to Father in prayer for comfort is an absolute. He knows grief and suffering from the loss of 1/3 of his children betraying Him and the loss of Emmanuel. No one is more passionate about comforting than Father.These stages will be gone through one at a time and not necessarily in the correct order. One may feel the “deal making” first or the denial or the anger. The other point to remember is that any stage can be re-experienced. So one may literally bounce back and forth with confusing emotions before the final “Acceptance” stage. Be aware that grieving causes physical pain as well as emotional. The expression of grief may take the form of teary eyes to crying to sobbing to gut wrenching pain and wailing. Each of us has our own capacity to control our emotions and may find that when pure grief is experienced, we are not as strong as we thought. We must be allowed to grieve. Not much angers me more than to hear someone say, “It’s time to move on, just get over it, there’s nothing you can do, just accept it.” Bologna! Grieve until you’re done! Let it out. If you hold it in, you’ll let it out at another time when you least expect it to hit and then, you have lost control. Loss of control is the most damaging feeling that one can have. It is the root to every emotional disturbance there is.So when it comes to grief, let her rip full force! Don’t ever milk it out and get back on your feet as soon as you’re able. Don’t exploit others for their pity or be a “poor me baby”. But the one thing to always, always remember is, NEVER allow anyone to tell you that it’s time for you to stop grieving. Don’t allow them to put you on their time schedule. You will know when your time comes and don’t cheat yourself out of grieving or you will just prolong any attempt at recovery.Blessings to ALL of those who love Father,Cedarhart
enial – It can’t be true; shock.Anger – The need to project blame or act out; resentment.Bargaining– An attempt to bargain with God to change the outcome.Depression – Feelings of regret or sorrow over past or present.Acceptance – Finally believing that the event has taken place and cannot be change.Coming to terms with loss is probably the worse type of emotional pain there is. Loss Can Include:Financial, personal belongings, employment, time, physical or mental abilities, and loss of a loved one.Each event is personal and one must experience a certain level of grief. All 5 stages will be experienced and will need to be dealt with regardless of any desire not to. Family and/or friend support is vital and running to Father in prayer for comfort is an absolute. He knows grief and suffering from the loss of 1/3 of his children betraying Him and the loss of Emmanuel. No one is more passionate about comforting than Father.These stages will be gone through one at a time and not necessarily in the correct order. One may feel the “deal making” first or the denial or the anger. The other point to remember is that any stage can be re-experienced. So one may literally bounce back and forth with confusing emotions before the final “Acceptance” stage. Be aware that grieving causes physical pain as well as emotional. The expression of grief may take the form of teary eyes to crying to sobbing to gut wrenching pain and wailing. Each of us has our own capacity to control our emotions and may find that when pure grief is experienced, we are not as strong as we thought. We must be allowed to grieve. Not much angers me more than to hear someone say, “It’s time to move on, just get over it, there’s nothing you can do, just accept it.” Bologna! Grieve until you’re done! Let it out. If you hold it in, you’ll let it out at another time when you least expect it to hit and then, you have lost control. Loss of control is the most damaging feeling that one can have. It is the root to every emotional disturbance there is.So when it comes to grief, let her rip full force! Don’t ever milk it out and get back on your feet as soon as you’re able. Don’t exploit others for their pity or be a “poor me baby”. But the one thing to always, always remember is, NEVER allow anyone to tell you that it’s time for you to stop grieving. Don’t allow them to put you on their time schedule. You will know when your time comes and don’t cheat yourself out of grieving or you will just prolong any attempt at recovery.Blessings to ALL of those who love Father,Cedarhart
