Mike,
My paranormal experiences seemed to happen in bunches, so dramatically so that I felt like St. Paul. But then inexplicably long dry spells would ensue, which made me feel like God had put me on the shelf! If the cause was unconfessed sin or a failure to act even more boldly in faith, those causes eluded my understanding. But here is what I do know: you can' try to believe. Built into the concept of trying is the unconscious convictions of inevitable failure.
That's why it seldom works when believers try to pressure someone to speak in tongues. By my lifelong discernment, if they succeed, the result will likely be gibberish of the flesh. We must remember that the Holy Spirit doesn't jump just because we crack our whip. Success usually comes only after an open-minded long period in which we long for more of God and seek the Giver, not the gift, while letting God know that would appreciate the gift. In my experience, the real thing feels like a divine ambush, in which one is quickly overwhelmed and controlled by the Spirit. The gradual intensification of one's awareness of the beauty of God's holiness eventually creates the fear that one might not survive the encounter, an encounter that is more awesome even than the birth of one's first child. I was interested to learn that when famed evangelist, D. L. Moody was Spirit baptized, he felt the need to ask God to stop the ever intensifying blessing lest he die! btw, Moody's Spirit baptism was pre-Azusa Street revival and thus did not involve speaking in tongues. I'm sobered by the realization that had nor I been Spirit baptized so dramatically and had I not had timely and continual paranormal experiences in the Spirit, I would probably have abandoned the faith! I have been exposed to so much Christian flimflam and hypocrisy in the life that I have often been extremely skeptical. I'm so greatful to God for noticing that and giving me exactly what I need to find Him real and revel in this awesome spiritual journey.
Stay tuned for my resumption of my "Journey" thread. Why the delay? Well, I'm a lazy bachelor who eats out in restaurants daily and I'm now trying to stop this by training myself to be a gourmet cook. Slow progress-- and I freak out when my lady friends ask, "So when do I get to taste one of your culinary masterpieces?"