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[Wrangler]

My Husband: I choose to work this hard so your life can be easier.

Me: That means I need to obsess over housework and frugality to make up for not having an income, right?

Him: I literally just like when you relax.

Me: This is hard for me to understand.

Husband: Do you want our kids to stress about bills?

Me: No.

Husband: That's how I feel about you.

My wife recently asked me to confirm that once we sell the house next year and move to be near my daughter that she won't have to work outside the home anymore after 47 years.

Even before all that, she couldn't understand why I told her throughout the marriage that I don't want her working that hard at home either. Just rest in the blessings God has provided, including having a husband, children and grandchildren who can do more of the heavy lifting.

 

[TitusTwoWife]

My wife recently asked me to confirm that once we sell the house next year and move to be near my daughter that she won't have to work outside the home anymore after 47 years.

Even before all that, she couldn't understand why I told her throughout the marriage that I don't want her working that hard at home either. Just rest in the blessings God has provided, including having a husband, children and grandchildren who can do more of the heavy lifting.

Good! Wrangler, I can say this:

I was raised to think masculinely and earn my value. I thought I had to get a degree and a full time career even though I didn't truly want those things. The idea of a man just wanting me to enjoy life and relax didn't make sense to me because I thought I had to earn it.

But a woman's value is innate. We are life bearers. Our value is not in stressing out as much as men but being a source of peace, fun, levity, and turning survival into something better.

 

[TitusTwoWife]

I've decided not to have more than three major household tasks on my list per day. I can go overboard obsessing about cleaning but I also need to have fun and enjoy myself so I can have a good countenance when my husband comes home from work.

Whimsy, fun, and enjoyment are important too.

I love scrapbooking, watching shows, movies, and reading for fun.

 

[TitusTwoWife]

So far, it's been a great relief to enjoy life more and work at a slower pace.

Unfortunately almost every woman I know is anxious so Im figuring out slowly how to be more carefree and whimsical. It feels wrong at first like I should feel guilty about it. But it's the very thing that's enjoyable and that my husband asked for.