You're right... I like the folding tips, and went along with that, but the rest of it was so common sense that I couldn't understand why it was such a big deal to people. Actually how big it was blown up that throwing things away was this life changing concept actually made me more concerned for the adults in this country. After learning how to fold a t-shirt in a different way it was like "Oh okay it ends here then." Not very helpful. I'm going to have to look up other professional organizers.
I can absolutely focus for a long time when I'm interested in what I'm doing or in desperate situations. I'll spend hours working on something if I'm ready to do it.
But I do think that part of my problem actually involves doing too much for other people every day, and being a little too altruistic is getting me sick again. I just realized last night after the tinnitus and peripheral neuropathy started coming back, that I hadn't been drinking any water for the past few days and I haven't been taking my iron or B12 regularly for a couple of months and have been stuck on a lot of vegetarian food, so that explains the minor auditory/visual hallucinations, cloudier thinking, and emotional stress.
At least this time I recognized it before it got too bad. I hope I remember that I have a plan to take care of it.
Pernicious anemia is kind of debilitating but I get into survival mode and keep moving. I forget that my body needs things.
I also remembered my grandmother telling me that I *needed* to take oyster shell calcium because osteoporosis runs in our family, and then put together I grew up without having dairy in the home and I don't buy it either, and it looks like ADHD is also linked to calcium deficiency.
Time to drink water and get back on my supplements, I guess.
I LOVE the deadline idea. I never thought of that! Thanks!
Most true mental illness surrounds some degree of narcissist behaviors and attitudes.
If you don't truly own that then you aren't mentally ill. So don't handicap or limit yourself with such a label as "mentally ill".
And where you are extremely gifted in a lot of ways beyond other's abilities... you aren't Superwoman or God with a limitless supply.
You are finite. You have a finite amount of time, energy, and resources. You can't be all things to all people...and when asked to a request you earlier rejected, you express your desire to fulfill that but "whatever excuse you can think of based loosely on the truth" gets inserted here.
IOW it's not good for you to try to do too much because then nothing gets done. Meaning that you have to take time to take care of yourself too. Otherwise a dead person or a hospitalized person does nothing productive. You either get to be the missionary or the mission field. Your choice.
So pick and choose the object of your altruism...and limit yourself to the one... meaning that the others get to just wish to be the focus. (Always leave them wanting more)
My cookie and truffle making at Christmas is a prime example. I made 14 varieties of truffles and 13 varieties of cookies. That's more than enough varieties!. I gave out 24 ct boxes of truffles and a 25ct cookie platter.
I dare anyone to make more varieties, package them, and remove the allergic reactions causing ones by individual requests and deliver these beautiful packages of homemade love to as many people as we did. (Wifey packaged and made lists and delivery routes)
All tolled...my wife and I accomplished a superhuman feat of brilliance.
But the whole time I was feeling like it wasn't enough, I need to do more, the candies need to look more perfect, the bake on the cookies needs to be better, I need to tweak the cookie recipes I wrote a bit more, and on and on....
The truth however didn't match my desires and feelings. I did good. My wife did excellent. Together, we did more to bring Christmas cheer than the rest of our friends combined. So why did I have all those negative, self destructive feelings of inadequacy the whole time?
Because I'm normal...the others...the recipients didn't get the joy of giving at all.
I am a true culinary professional. Yes I used to get paid handsomely to do this every day. I see truffles and cookies made in the same fashion as I currently do them and know what the retailers charge...I even know a few. Mine are exactly the same as what they can produce. Flaws and all. (Although my friends can't find a single flaw...they don't have the skills to)
Wanting more...we all do that. It's what Adam and Eve did that got them kicked out of the Garden in Eden. And working yourself into the ground to get that little bit more?
Thats why God wrote the tenth commandment.