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Get yourself one of those nice Christian girls with the floral prints and the floppy summer hats and the Bible Study coloring Instagrams, where they got all of the fancy hashtags and post a coffee or tea with every picture in blush filter
Hey, if she does it purposefully and in faith...
LLLLEEETSSSSSS GOOOOOOO!
But, yeah, I'm praying for a mighty helpmate!
march on n the glorious Lord sister . You are loved and we will be praying for you .Thanks! lol I am and I'm dying inside. Big headache... I might have to step back from the internet today a little bit because I've already been tempted to tell one person off, who was wrong anyways, but I'm afraid of saying all of the wrong things today!
It's cliche but I think they make the best wives! You already know what they're focused on... I wouldn't date anyone that uses Instagram or any mainstream social media because it's too much trouble and I don't need that trash in my life- I want someone faithful, but the Instagram blush filter girls are probably perfect brides to be!
I'll pray for you, too!
What exactly do people mean when the say those things...ADD...ADHD...?.
My parents took me to see a shrink when I was a kid, because I was hyper active and I was always the class clown and I couldn't sit still.
Looking back I see how my behavior was probably a result of childhood trauma (abusive home life).
But, I'm pretty smart too (I guess) so I knew how to answer the shrink so I wouldn't get any unwanted attention...
So, I never was diagnosed or prescribed meds. Or anything like that, but I did begin to use other street level substances at an early age and I've wondered if it was what's called self-medicating.
Anyways, I've come to the understanding that I'm a born artist and adreneline junky...like I like to live on the edge and when I fought wildland fire I was in my element.
So, I believe you are an artist too, so you are blessed with some extra oomf, so maybe it's not a matter of trying to conform to certain societal expectations, but rather to find alternate channels of expression wherein our talents and abilities are used for Kingdom Work!
Thank you, Amigo! Love you too!march on n the glorious Lord sister . You are loved and we will be praying for you .
I think it can go two ways.. I don't look for reasons for excuses, but I will work towards finding out what the best solutions are for myself to get to the place that I want to be. If I understand myself better then I have a better chance at finding out what works for me. Sort of like hacking your brain. I'm also a firm believer in neuroplasticity, so I think there is always a way to fix *almost* anything.Personally, I believe, MEN decide what THEY expect a persons BEHAVIOR should be and WHEN a persons BEHAVIOR does not FIT a mans MOLD, MAN "labels" a persons "UNMOLDED" behavior ... a MENTAL ILLNESS.
And then, psychologically (indoctrination), and with drugs TRIES to MAKE the person, MOLDED into what MEN have
DECLARED "acceptable".
Psychobabble, in my opinion.
And the sad thing is...the person "clinically diagnosed" with "mental illness"...believes it, carries it, relys on it, uses it as excuses...
IOW...regardless of all the psychology and drugs...the LABEL is always at the persons constant forefront.
Yeah, I don't date...never have...
We're either in or out and no more girlfriends for me...I've only had like 3 serious ones anyways...
No, I'm wifing (hey that's like WiFi...) or just going about the Kingdom Business wifeless, and it won't be long now.
I think it can go two ways.. I don't look for reasons for excuses, but I will work towards finding out what the best solutions are for myself to get to the place that I want to be. If I understand myself better then I have a better chance at finding out what works for me. Sort of like hacking your brain. I'm also a firm believer in neuroplasticity, so I think there is always a way to fix *almost* anything.
I wouldn't say so much that we're "making up" diseases, but I will say that I believe wholeheartedly that we're responsible for creating the majority of them. Diet, processed food, pollution, electronic binging, television, etc... harsh chemicals ...
How long did the Victorians live with that green paint or did the girls keep licking the radioactive paint for glow in the dark clocks before the damage was already done? Even hats with mercury were making people crazy. Women were burned at the stakes for being witches after just having some bad rye bread. The difference is now we already know what we're doing and we're just doing it anyway.
I wouldn't get "officially" diagnosed either, because I will never take the drugs that they prescribe. So it would be sort of pointless for me to go and have someone tell me what I already know... just to walk out and say "Okay thanks" and go back to taking care of things the same exact way I already was.
But I also don't doubt these things anymore, and I wouldn't want to assume that someone is "just fine" when they are actually in need of help and struggling massively with daily life. I think people did that with me too long and it prevented me from considering even looking into the help that I needed.
Do you think dating is unbiblical? Is that why? I've actually been thinking through this myself. Paul Washer talked about this and it's been on my mind for the last few years. (Yeah, years...) Reading through the story of Samson, he spent time with the girl, and he decided he liked her. She liked him too - and then that was it and they got married.
Do you think dating is unbiblical? Is that why? I've actually been thinking through this myself. Paul Washer talked about this and it's been on my mind for the last few years. (Yeah, years...) Reading through the story of Samson, he spent time with the girl, and he decided he liked her. She liked him too - and then that was it and they got married.
Well, I wanted to begin to shoot down the whole concept of dating...or at least my understanding of it, but when I used the words, ,"check listing," "vetting" (which I boiled down to "gossiping"), and "testing"...I started having second thoughts...particularly on the last word, and your thread on just this topic came to mind.
I've disregarded societal conventions so automatically that I haven't really looked into the subject of dating either way...I just know how it went down for me in the past.
Maybe I do need to really look deeper into any woman I am attracted to...
I guess, and I'm kinda just realizing this, that I've had such low self-esteem growing up that I was just happy that any girl would be nice to me and show interest in me...
...huh...this explains why I'm usually not the initiater in my past relationships...
But, now it's not about that old me that had sights set low...rather, it's about the Kingdom Work that He has prepared for us to do.
So, I am restlessly waiting for her to come (as a murder of crows) and eat up all the she demons flying at me...(this is based on a dream I had not too long ago)...flesh hanging from her beaks...
...so...yeah...
That makes sense to me... I have a history of not caring enough and ending up with the wrong people for the sake of ending up with someone, and then just making it work because we're already there and now it just keeps going and I don't really know how I got there. (That's the ADHD/time blindness.) I don't fall in love very easily and if I do I pretty much know immediately.
So like twice. Married the first one. Turned out he married me for a sign on bonus and a marriage of convenience, so that was a bad choice anyway. Go figure.
I wasted years or something in an LDR that I knew I wasn't really head over heels in love or anything, just because I was already there and I didn't really know what to do about it, until I just got so fed up with him that I called it off. And the night I did, my house got struck by lightning! Scared all of the ducks out of me!
Thank goodness the power was out!
I don't know if a murder of crows eating demons is a good way to describe your future wife. LOL
I guess I just "knew." Love at first sight, I guess. I know what that's like but it didn't really work out in my favor. LOL Unrequited. I wasn't marriage material for anyone, either... at the time.Hmmm, yeah, I don't know what it's like to be head over heels in love...How do you know immediately if you are, if you don't mind?
That's intense!I guess something inside was trying to say, "Hey, this drive you have for the female species will be reined in by marrying just the right woman...one that can channel your energy and keep you holy!".
AMEN.Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.
I guess I just "knew." Love at first sight, I guess. I know what that's like but it didn't really work out in my favor. LOL Unrequited. I wasn't marriage material for anyone, either... at the time.
The LDR relationship was in different countries. God didn't let it happen. We had some time in person and he was good to me, but I knew it wasn't it.
That's intense!
AMEN.
I wasn't marriage material for anyone, either... at the time.