Thank you for the response T2!
"I find praying for them while not taking anything they do personally helps. A while ago I made this decision to expect nothing from others & not to take anything personally and not to let my feelings be easily hurt or offended and let go of resentments. After much prayer after some experiences in the past of disappointment , I attended church with the motivation to serve rather then be served, to treat others how I wanted to be treated regardless of their attitude or actions. If there was any bad vibe , I let it go, I found it made the disappointments less and me much happier with my focus upon worship & bible study the relationships slowly developed."
All of what you say is correct and the right thing to do. Yet, all those things you mentioned here were done by me to no adieu. I did not want my focus to be anywhere BUT on Jesus and serving others. Yet, I craved fellowship and, I did all the bible studies which were okay but, at at that Church, you were not allowed to speak up in the studies and especially not to challenge the "teachers" Although, there was 2 of the elders who taught that did NOT mind questions or comments but, they rarely were the teachers there.
When I left there, I did make an appointment with the Pastor to let him know I would be leaving and going back to my old Church since they had moved a 4th campus near me. I did tell him about the fellowship thing and feeling shunned by many there, even after 2 plus years of attending there. The women (who never attempted to get to know me and would start talking to others if I tried starting conversations with them. Some would even walk away during mid sentence! I have never attended a colder, more cliquey Church. Besides, I toughed it out and tried to put behind me a certain doctrine that I do NOT believe in and that my pastor at that time DID believe and, I prayed to look past that and focus on the words he did speak that I can get on board with. He understood where I was coming from and, gave me his blessing.
I don't believe we are always "meant for" just any local body...there are many more opportunities for me at my old Church...plus there are a good handful of my old Christian friends attending there so, being much more settled in my spirit, I do believe God drew me to my old/new Church...It's blessed me soooo much ♥
God Bless!