I think your question about the different kinds of love are strange, since truly having either Phileo or Agape for each other should dispel any hint that we despise each other. But I agree with your point. I am new here and have been reading over some threads and already see contention and division in this board. Its not surprising really... there are divisions and fightings among the churches we fellowship in every Sunday, so how much more will there be sharp words and unloving behavior among internet fellowships with ppl we don't know personally or ever come face-to-face with? This type of thing is a perversion that has been with the Church since the days of Paul, and personally I feel it is Satan's greatest "tee hee hee" in the Body of Christ. I find it amazing that in just about every epistle the writer takes a moment to command the churches to "be of one mind, one spirit, forsake not the assembly, love one another, walk in one accord", and yet we as the church seem to take extra precautions to make sure that those verses never become a reality. Jesus Christ taught us the power of unity ("when two or three are gathered in My name...") and even made it a point to ask the Father that we would all be one as He and Him were one. It is any wonder why we face such spiritual oppoistion when it comes to unity? I honestly believe that the biggest problem among the Body at this point is not simply false doctrine. Our Lord promised that the wheats and the tares would be seperated in due time. The Family of God's problem is that, thousands of years down the line, we still have not come to terms with the fact that we need each other.