You really feel that you have a challenge to love Judas? I'm not sure that Jesus loved him, what's your reason for believing that He did? Jesus called the twelve tribal patriarchs by lineal descent to be His disciples, had Herod Agrippa, the usurper of Israelite kingship not been in power, Jesus would have been the King Himself. Just as David's legitimate heir was outcast and had to hide in Egypt during his youth because of the order to kill all those sons born in his birth year (because Herod knew of the visit of the three wise men), the patriarchal elder's heritages were also known, and they were living in the same penury. Judas was the head of a tribe; I see Jesus as only having served him at the last supper because of that.
The twelve were all members of the council of elders. Another reason I don't see myself as challenged to love Judas is that unlike Jusus, who ascended into Heaven and is still alive, Judas is deceased. The facts of an Allegretti style afterlife don't seem to make any difference here at all, Judas might be in Hell or asleep in the grave (Lasiurus was only sleeping, remember), but only Jesus was divine. You don't have to love a corrupt government official at all, I know Jesus did not lead a Zealot uprising against Herod who was a usurper, but this is a republic anyway, and honor is for the office of state, not the elected official. They make you respect elected officials, but they can still be impeached.