Not being a respector of persons, as I understand it, means that He does not treat the rich or powerful different from the weak and poor. But it doesn't mean He ignores the individuality that He gave to each of us.Agreed. Not being a respector of persons means not showing favoritism I always thought. Grace is grace and not based on merit, or choosing soup over an inheritance. This can also suggest that God's plans or responses are not drafted based on man's good or evil acts, they were already in place. Therefore His hate for Esau or anyone else is a feeling but also a fixed state that reprobates cannot escape ... part of the plan, foreseen by God before the foundation. Oops that's going to start a war against "predestination".
You make a good point, Grace is not about the soup or the inheritance. And God choosing to uphold Jacob and tear down Esau determined who would be the heir, and patriarch of Israel.
Much love!