Now this was the sin of your sister Sodom: She and her daughters were arrogant, overfed and unconcerned; they did not help the poor and needy. Ezk 16:49
Even as Sodom and Gomorrha, and the cities about them in like manner, giving themselves over to fornication, and going after strange flesh, are set forth for an example, suffering the vengeance of eternal fire. (Jude 1:7)
Is it hateful or is it fair to ask if you've ever read this?
It seems to me that taking Ezekiel 16:49 as a conclusive, comprehensive statement of the reason Sodom was destroyed could not be very accurate.
You'll notice, by the way, that the fire that consumed Sodom is not still burning. It would seem that the word "eternal" in Scripture, in its various forms, does not always indicate perpetuity but sometimes merely finality. Sodom has never been rebuilt.
This is, of course, a very controversial view and, strangely enough, loathed with seething by many Christians, as we'll soon likely discover.
There is a tendency for folks to see God as threatening when they are not seeking after Him, which is understandable to an extent.
But the Bible as a whole speaks more to the eagerness of God to have his children reconciled to Himself.
For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the LORD, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)
Unfortunately, far too many Christians emphasize the former view. It is a form of idolatry and superstition instituted by the medieval church which, if cherished for too long, can drive a Christian right out of the arms of the One they claim to serve and, so very sadly, bars even more skeptics from the peace that passes understanding.
Strange that someone would detest the idea that the ones who ultimately reject God's love are destined to suffer only commensurate with the evil they've actually perpetrated when the judgment is set. A man named Edward Fudge made this his life's study. I started a thread about the subject a few years ago. It was closed down, not for being against forum rules in premise, but for participant's nastiness and being derailed by anti-cultists after 999 posts.
Of course, when one yields and commits their case to Christ, they suffer no executive judgment whatsoever.
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