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Well you are making some pretty rash generalizations yourself over one post I made which is fine,
... it obviously got you in some way...
...I have a theory and will keep it to myself.
For five years it has been an issue at this church and some of these girls do make a big deal about everything one does. Do you think it would be a good idea to confront someone about it already ?
As for the pastor having control there is a lot of acting going on and I doubt he is aware of the issue.
1 Peter 3:1 Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
2 While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
3 Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel;
4 But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price.
5 For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:
6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
What on earth does that part I highlighted mean? Especially the last phrase of it? :unsure:
"and are not afraid with any amazement."?
That has me stumped. I see Darby's version renders amazement as "consternation" which would be an angry reaction.
I see that the word it comes from is a derivative of this one: <G4422> ptoeo -- probably akin to the alternate of 4098 (through the idea of causing to fall) or to 4072 (through that of causing to fly away); to scare:
So what it means is that she not allow the actions of the man to cause her to fall off from her responsibility as a wife to her husband? That is the best I can figure.
More than likely, that is a wise decision. "Theories" have a way of showing themselves unfounded and tend to be a great display of the prejudices of the theorist.
I, personally, have never fully understood the "Sarah" example, in any form. It's one of those I simply take on faith. Having said that...
Through my studies, this is what I have discovered...There are generally 2 trains of thought when it comes to v6.
1. It was a question of infidelity...IOW...If you live well and are faithful to your husband, you will not live in fear of being found guilty of infidelity.
2. Overall behavior...You will be considered the "daughter of Sarah" as long as you do what it right and do not give into fear.
That is the one that I have the hardest time with it seeming harsh to me but I think I know also that much of my difficulty with it is the deep regret that I have in me that I was not a better husband when I had the chance to be.
Darby's version using the phrase, "not fearing with any kind of consternation", seems awfully gruff to me. I have not looked in the dictionary to see the exact definition of that word "consternation", but my sense of that word tells me it means a bit more than just a passive taking of offense.
But like I say, I think I know that is my own past coming back to haunt me as I had turned and walked away from my wife out of resentment for something she was doing. I threw up my hands and just quit on her. And before I could work it out of me she had died. I carry a continual weeping in me because of that and how I would treasure being able to put up with her reasonable consternation again. But it is too late now.
And that intensifies at times when loneliness begins to get to me.
Agreed, I don't want to argue with you about each others words such quarrels are useless, of little value and only ruin those who listen. If i choose to confront one of them this will require surgical precision I will have to be very gentle.
Are you a member of the church? An elder? Hold a position of authority?
From the information you have given...It is not YOUR place to "confront one of them"...with or without "surgical precision". This issue should be taken to a person in authority at the church and that person should prayerfully turn the issue over to one of the elder women in the church to prayerfully counsel these women. This can easily destroy the faith of a young woman and most assuredly is NOT an issue that should be addressed by a male.
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That's a tough burden to carry. It's a good thing we have an able God who is willing to carry our load for us.
It takes a big, and humble, man to confront his past mistakes, learn from them and move on. I pray God continues his healing process in your broken heart.
Amen, Pegg,
It matters not what we think,(any of us), but what God sets for us to do.
Did God set down a standard that completely disallows a woman from speaking to the congregation or can that woman serve at times in certain situations as the mouthpiece of her head by permission of her head? Could this be typified in how the woman Jerusalem is shown to be the mouthpiece which speaks the word on behalf of her husband, on behalf of God?
in the early congregations, there were prominent women who were spoken of as 'holy women' and as those who were 'striving side by side' in the ministry of God... Romans 16:1-2 I recommend to YOU Phoe′be our sister, who is a minister of the congregation that is in Cen′chre‧ae, 2 that YOU may welcome her in [the] Lord in a way worthy of the holy ones, and that YOU may assist her in any matter where she may need YOU, for she herself also proved to be a defender of many, yes, of me myself.
there are numerous women mentioned by name for the deeds of faith and the work they did for the Lord and for the congregation of God... so its not like women weren't active servants of God, they certainly were...there are even books written about them such as the book of Ester and Ruth in the Hebrew scriptures.
And in the first century women were privileged to minister to Jesus. (Luke 8:1-3) Women were among those to whom Jesus appeared after his resurrection. (Matthew 28:1-10; John 20:1-18) and both men and women were among those who experienced the fulfillment of Joel 2:28, 29 for there were female prophets in the christian congregation.
so i think its pretty clear that Pauls words really are about 'authority' and the 'leadership' roles in the congregations.
Amen, it is pretty clear.
I think that what happens to us as we try to understand the finer details of Paul's words is that we sometimes due to our own lack of understanding begin trying to compare apples to oranges.
I would be the first to accuse myself of having and yet having a tendency to be guilty of that. Not caring that I am right of my own glory I care only that I ascertain what is right to God in His eyes. I must if I am to be able and find His truth.
yep, thats exactly what happens.
if we read a verse such as 'a women must remain silent, i do not permit a woman to teach', we shouldnt draw any conclusions until we understand the context of the passage and we should always weigh it up with other scriptures to seek clarification.
there is always a reasonable conclusion to be had...God is not an extremist
Sorry, I've got to come to the aid of you sisters in Christ out there.
Firstly, I very much believe in God's order for the family He setup in the beginning (1 Tim.2). Not for my own self, but for the sake of the family unit. At the same time, Paul and Peter commanded us men to love our wives as we do Christ and His Church, and I admit I've not always been the best in that relationship with my wife. I'm not perfect and neither is she.
HOWEVER...
When one reads what Paul said in 1 Cor.14:33-38 more closely, and in context, he said a lot more there which many miss...
1 Cor 14:33-38
33 For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.
34 Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law.
35 And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church.
Right at the end of that 35th verse is where MOST men just stop reading. "Ah, there it is wife. You're not supposed to speak in Church, so remember that!" No, there's more to what Paul said with that, for he continues...
36 What? came the word of God out from you? or came it unto you only?
Apostle Paul is speaking to men here. He then says TO MEN this idea, 'What??? Did the word of God come out from YOU MEN? or did it come UNTO YOU MEN ONLY???
Paul's previous statements are simply repeating an idea from Old Covenant tradition of women keeping silence in the congregation.
37 If any man think himself to be a prophet, or spiritual, let him acknowledge that the things that I write unto you are the commandments of the Lord.
38 But if any man be ignorant, let him be ignorant.
(KJV)
Not only should women keep silent in the Church when they have nothing to say that edifies the Church, but nor should men who have nothing to say also. And men can equally be some of the greatest gossipers during Church service as women can.
But the other matter Paul covers is that God's Word did NOT just go to men only (remember Anna, Priscilla, even the time when God called Deborah to be judge over Israel because all the men were scared and weak). That means a woman should be able to teach The Gospel Message too. But I believe they should not as in an office that would usurp the positions of a man which Christ set over His Church, like the Jezebel example of Revelation 2.
And what about head coverings? Was Paul there stating a doctrine of the church?
Or was Paul actually merely expounding on the operation of love in the church, refining details as to how that love ought to work?
If the latter is true, that Paul was actually merely expounding on the operation of love in the church, refining details as to how that love ought to work, then, was Paul telling us that all of the churches in any age should require that no woman teach in the church and that any woman who prays in the church must wear a head covering?
Or, would that inflexibility of itself cause those things to at times violate the very principle of love that Paul was teaching?
1 Timothy 2:12 "But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence."
1 Corinthians 14:34-35 "Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church."
1 Corinthians 11:5-6 "But every woman that prayeth or prophesieth with her head uncovered dishonoureth her head: for that is even all one as if she were shaven. For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered."
Subjects such as these demonstrate our spiritual balance and show how well we have captured the pulse of the love that is God's.
I suspect that Paul was trying to direct the growing church here. Realising that women often got sidetracked on feminine matters he tried to bring order back to the serious business at hand which was Jesus Christ. In those days barbarism and the Romans were the serious issues and discussing children and family matters was overpowering the faith.
Spiritually, women are the same as men and need to follow Jesus in the accurate way Jesus taught us all...over and above Paul. They too want everlasting life and it is only achievable if we follow Jesus accurately....man or woman.