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Matthias

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@Riven I’d like to ask you a question about your little brother, and another about your family. Don’t feel obligated to answer them. Feel free to treat them as rhetorical questions.

Was your little brother baptized?

What was / is your family’s attitude concerning infant baptism?
 

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@Riven I’d like to ask you a question about your little brother, and another about your family. Don’t feel obligated to answer them. Feel free to treat them as rhetorical questions.

Was your little brother baptized?

What was / is your family’s attitude concerning infant baptism?
Delete this now. Then I'll delete this post once you do. Please!!! Before you'll see how that's going to turn out.
 

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I call plagiarism on your particular experience. It sounds a lot like this:

2 Corinthians 12:2
I know a man in Christ who fourteen years ago—whether in the body I do not know, or out of the body I do not know, God knows—such a man was caught up to the third heaven.

Also that's the verse the Mormon church use to validate their belief in a three heaven system:
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Then you'd be on track but wrong (as are they).
 

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Your baby brother dies while you are still a child. You've never really lived life, just on autopilot. You're in debt up to your eyeballs. You're addicted to alchol just to take the edge off.

I dont know what to do. Sometimes I feel like life isn't worth living. The pain of everything is just do much to endure. I think about Jesus and what he endured on the cross. It makes me want to keep going.

But it's just such an awful existence. To exist for others, but never truly live. I hate it so much. I don't know what to do. I can't rely on myself, just screw everything up.

I'm sorry. I don't mean to burden others with my problems. But it's just so hard. It wasn't supposed to be so hard. Living life shouldn't be a disaster at every waking moment. I just want to be happy. I want to be able to tell Jesus that in sorry. That I tried so hard. I tried my best to believe in him.

In my heart, that's where I am. An overwhelming sense of sadness and hopelessness. If this is what hell feels like, then I'm already there.

You need to die, as in get born again and die to self.

Learn that it's no longer about you and your feelings, your hardships

Instead it's about following the desires of the Lord, being led by the Holy Spirit, it's about being a new creature in Christ - LOOK, old things are passed away and all things are new and of God ceasing to live for yourself and instead live as an ambassador for Christ

In other words, repent of your sin (drinking, anxiety, fear, worry), get born again, let your past go and start a NEW live with Christ Jesus as a Christian and quit living like you and start living like the Lord, in agreement with Him.
 
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Actually Yahweh has killed more human beings than Satan has. It's true you know.

Only those that need killin! :gd

The difference is when the Lord takes someone out He is doing it because they are guilty and they are in the way of other people coming to the Lord for salvation

The devil kill innocent people for no reason other than he's trying to get back at God somehow
 

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But nooo....we all have to keep believing something.
“Everybody's got to believe in something. I believe I'll have another beer.” - W. C. Fields

As I’ve said before, “knowing” is just “believing” for certain accepted reasons. But you’ve hit on what may be a profound truth - humans need a reason to go on. And I’ve known too many who decided one day they had no reason to go on.
 

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You could quote someone meaningful, such as the Lord Jesus???
I don’t want to derail Riven’s thread, but if I were to loosely quote Jesus, I’d say “It’s not the beer that goes into a man’s mouth that defiles him; that ends up in the latrine. It’s the crap that comes out of a man’s mouth that defiles him.” (See Mark 7:14-23)
 

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I don’t want to derail Riven’s thread, but if I were to loosely quote Jesus, I’d say “It’s not the beer that goes into a man’s mouth that defiles him; that ends up in the latrine. It’s the crap that comes out of a man’s mouth that defiles him.” (See Mark 7:14-23)

Couldn't the same thing you claim about beer also apply to smoking crack, shooting heroin, smoking weed, snorting coke, etc, etc?

The false grace folks sure like to advocate for their intoxicants :rolleyes:

It's relevant to the OP since he said he was a drunk
 

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Your baby brother dies while you are still a child. You've never really lived life, just on autopilot. You're in debt up to your eyeballs. You're addicted to alchol just to take the edge off.

I dont know what to do. Sometimes I feel like life isn't worth living. The pain of everything is just do much to endure. I think about Jesus and what he endured on the cross. It makes me want to keep going.

But it's just such an awful existence. To exist for others, but never truly live. I hate it so much. I don't know what to do. I can't rely on myself, just screw everything up.

I'm sorry. I don't mean to burden others with my problems. But it's just so hard. It wasn't supposed to be so hard. Living life shouldn't be a disaster at every waking moment. I just want to be happy. I want to be able to tell Jesus that in sorry. That I tried so hard. I tried my best to believe in him.

In my heart, that's where I am. An overwhelming sense of sadness and hopelessness. If this is what hell feels like, then I'm already there.
What do you value most of all? There has to be something because you keep on living. Good you btw. Happiness isn't a goal. It's not something to be achieved and held onto. It's fleeting it's temporary but society today says it's the most important thing. Happiness or any of our emotions are a result of the choices we make of the choices of the choices that others make. Emotions do not fly through the window and attack us. They are a reaction to the things that happen to us whether in our control or out of our control. Generally when people are depressed it's because things happened they don't control. That's leads then to think they have no control. The more people focus on what they control (their words and actions) the happier they will be. Happier not necessarily happy. The more often you can focus on what you control the more often you'll be happier. Nasty stuff happens to us that we didn't choose. It's tragic but what we do in response to it and how we think about it is ALWAYS our choice
 
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@Riven I’d like to ask you a question about your little brother, and another about your family. Don’t feel obligated to answer them. Feel free to treat them as rhetorical questions.

Was your little brother baptized?

What was / is your family’s attitude concerning infant baptism?
I honestly don't know. My stepdad was the only one that seemed somewhat religious. I had a general belief in God at the time, as did my mother. But we weren't church goers.
 

nedsk

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I honestly don't know. My stepdad was the only one that seemed somewhat religious. I had a general belief in God at the time, as did my mother. But we weren't church goers.
Ask God to help you see what really matters to you. Start making decisions that move you toward what matters most to you. The more often you can do that the better off you'll be. God has already taken care of your little brother. He is in the best hands possible. Be grateful. Move on with your life. Live love, be happy but you have to make healthy choices. For too long I didn't. God doesn't walk the steps for us but he does give us what to need to take them.
 
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