I like mine short and spikey but soft round my face for a more feminine look. Too short and makes it look masculine.My wife does as well; she decided years ago to keep it that way, necessitating frequent trips for a cut; we often go together to have it done.
She's not yet tried those high trims over the ears and at the back, though, which recently seem to have become really, really popular. I guess it's a kind of professional, quiet, ready-for-any-contingency type of style.