Cheating and repentance

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DuckieLady

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My opinion.is the same for men not only women, I’m the most laid back person there not abusive at all. So you thing it’s right she was messing around with several men while married with two children, she should’ve gotten a pat on the back?
If I was married to a man and had a child with him and he messed around on me many times, I would have been hurt. I would have cried and screamed into a pillow until the sun came up, and I would have gone through a whole bunch of mess with him, but then I would have split up with him and went my own way.

Then after becoming a Christian, I would have forgiven him, and every once in a while remember to pray for him and his new wife and family.

That's just how it worked out. I don't see the point in wishing harm on anyone. I just want them to be saved before Christ's return. That's it.
 
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Luke 6:27-28
“But to you who are listening I say: Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you."

That's love.
 
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If I was married to a man and had a child with him and he messed around on me many times, I would have been hurt. I would have cried and screamed into a pillow until the sun came up, and I would have gone through a whole bunch of mess with him, but then I would have split up with him and went my own way.

Then after becoming a Christian, I would have forgiven him, and every once in a while remember to pray for him and his new wife and family.

That's just how it worked out. I don't see the point in wishing harm on anyone. I just want them to be saved before Christ's return. That's it.
I’m not wishing harm on anyone I simply said she played she paid, I’m also against homosexuals and all the other deviant things that go with it not just adultery and I'm also for the death penalty.
 
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I’m not wishing harm on anyone I simply said she played she paid, I’m also against homosexuals and all the other deviant things that go with it not just adultery.
I think it's evident what you're seeing isn't the consequence of God's justice. It is just part of a fallen world and part of what takes place apart from God.

God isn't in that. Jesus isn't in that.

It is easy to look at that kind of tragedy and know it is absent from Christ; the consequence of living in a evil, sinful world while refusing a good God.
 

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I think it's evident what you're seeing isn't the consequence of God's justice. It is just part of a fallen world and part of what takes place apart from God.

God isn't in that. Jesus isn't in that.

It is easy to look at that kind of tragedy and know it is absent from Christ; the consequence of living in a evil, sinful world while refusing a good God.
I never said God or Jesus was involved, just that she wanted to be play so she paid, her infidelity caught up to her.
 

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I have a question being we are talking about Adultery here, would anyone on this forum claim justice was served for Orsoyla Gaal's infidelities towards here husband?
I am curious to know people's opinion on this, I know Jesus forgave the adulteress back in his time, but this lady seems to be a repeat offender with the multiple men she was talking with the night her murder occurred.
My ex husband was a serial adulterer, it didn’t save our marriage but God called me to forgive him for everything, at the time I was angry that the Lord asked that of me. Yet , in time, I was willing and able to do just that…..I was saddened and upset when he was diagnosed with cancer and certainly never ever considered his death to be ‘ karma ‘ or ‘ justice ‘.
We do face consequences to the choices we make, and some of those consequences involve losing a life, freedom, or countless other negatives. I do not see how this lady being murdered in such an awful way as being justice for her adultery. Rita
 
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My ex husband was a serial adulterer, it didn’t save our marriage but God called me to forgive him for everything, at the time I was angry that the Lord asked that of me. Yet , in time, I was willing and able to do just that…..I was saddened and upset when he was diagnosed with cancer and certainly never ever considered his death to be ‘ karma ‘ or ‘ justice ‘.
We do face consequences to the choices we make, and some of those consequences involve losing a life, freedom, or countless other negatives. I do not see how this lady being murdered in such an awful way as being justice for her adultery. Rita
Rita I am simply saying there are consequences for everything we do, just like her lover that killed her he will suffer his consequences as well.
 

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Rita I am simply saying there are consequences for everything we do, just like her lover that killed her he will suffer his consequences as well.
I kind of read your earlier post as somehow suggesting that her death was a punishment for the adultery, sorry, did I misinterpret what you meant ?
 

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I kind of read your earlier post as somehow suggesting that her death was a punishment for the adultery, sorry, did I misinterpret what you meant ?
Yes Rita, I simply meant her unfaithful acts caught up to her, and her lover will also pay the consequences for murdering her.
 

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Yes Rita, I simply meant her unfaithful acts caught up to her, and her lover will also pay the consequences for murdering her.
Thanks for explaining JohnPaul, yes one thing led to another xx
 
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I am not as forgiving towards adulterers, bless you that you are Cassandra.

Have you read about the adulteress who just got killed, stabbed 58 times in New York by her lover who then stuffed her in a Hockey bag, while her 13 year old was sleeping upstairs and her husband and 17 year old were in Michigan college hunting?

You play you pay, there are consequences for everything we do.
 

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The issue here is my wife is a non believer who is slowly being drawn into god. I have been taking her and my son to church, and reading the bible nightly with them. She has been hurt in the past, and already has a ton of resentments against god. I'm trying to figure out if God is truly wanting me set my sons life, wife's life, and my life completely on fire so that there is true honest clarity between me and my wife. Or if god simply wants me to keep walking the narrow path with Jesus and grow stronger through him and let my sin stay burried. I have TRUE conviction and I have Genuinely repented. I am by no means trying to justify my sin. My wife would almost surely deny god and more than likely end our marriage immediately. I don't think my son deserves to only see his dad a few days a week if that because of one sin I committed and repented from.
 
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The issue here is my wife is a non believer who is slowly being drawn into god. I have been taking her and my son to church, and reading the bible nightly with them. She has been hurt in the past, and already has a ton of resentments against god. I'm trying to figure out if God is truly wanting me set my sons life, wife's life, and my life completely on fire so that there is true honest clarity between me and my wife. Or if god simply wants me to keep walking the narrow path with Jesus and grow stronger through him and let my sin stay burried. I have TRUE conviction and I have Genuinely repented. I am by no means trying to justify my sin. My wife would almost surely deny god and more than likely end our marriage immediately. I don't think my son deserves to only see his dad a few days a week if that because of one sin I committed and repented from.
If you have truly repented, go and sin no more as Jesus would say and leave it up to God, whether your wife will stay or not.

I understand her hurt as it is a big betrayal of her trust in you, keep praying and keep asking forgiveness in hopes that God keeps your family together.
 
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The issue here is my wife is a non believer who is slowly being drawn into god. I have been taking her and my son to church, and reading the bible nightly with them. She has been hurt in the past, and already has a ton of resentments against god. I'm trying to figure out if God is truly wanting me set my sons life, wife's life, and my life completely on fire so that there is true honest clarity between me and my wife. Or if god simply wants me to keep walking the narrow path with Jesus and grow stronger through him and let my sin stay burried. I have TRUE conviction and I have Genuinely repented. I am by no means trying to justify my sin. My wife would almost surely deny god and more than likely end our marriage immediately. I don't think my son deserves to only see his dad a few days a week if that because of one sin I committed and repented from.

I think you are fine. God has already buried your sin. Micah 7:19
"He will turn again, he will have compassion upon us; he will subdue our iniquities; and thou wilt cast all their sins into the depths of the sea."
Heb 8:12
"For I will be merciful to their unrighteousness, and their sins and their iniquities will I remember no more."

And referring to John 8:1-11.


1 but Jesus went to the Mount of Olives.
2 At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them.
3 The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group
4 and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery.
5 In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?”
6 They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger.
7 When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.”

8 Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground.

9 At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there.

10 Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?”
11 “No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin

So had any of us been there, we would've seen our sins as well. Mary Magdalene was forgiven and admonished to sin no more. You have been forgiven, and are admonished, as we all are, to sin no more. Perhaps our brethren here would do well to remember that part.

Your sin is buried. You are free.