Sex Before Marriage

[Ritajanice]

I’m not judging anyone, just voicing my belief.

I don’t believe in sex before marriage, as soon as I gave myself to the Lord, that was it , he is mine I am his, I have been celibate for the past 32 years,I have always been faithful to my 2 husbands that I was married to, I am divorced from both of them,therefore remain faithful to the Lord as I have given myself to him.... I was in my 30s when I became Born Again.

What are your beliefs on sex before marriage if I may ask?

Does Gods word say “ No sex before marriage “?

 

[The Learner]

Before I got saved. My Father taught me: If you get a gal pregrant, you will have to marry her. So, don't have sex with one you would not want to marry. He also, said, it would take at leaste 5 years of freindship to get to know a gal. Thus I used common sense, not to fall into a trap. I was doing after school janitor work to earn money for a ford mustang 1968? I bought a Statonwagon for $75. While clean the ladies latrine after school, there was vhs and cassette tapes on training us boys. I made copies in the Library. Lisen to and watched them,. I had more dates, female friends that I did not know what to do with them all. I made sure they knew about each other. There was no temptation to have sex with them. Their dad's loved the conservatie car I had --- glass on all sides. In fact, when they were with me there was not a curfue, because we called their homes often. And, most dates were as a group.

 

[JohnDB]

Something that I have observed....

Those with lots of sexual partners enjoy sex less than those who refrain from sex outside of marriage.

Totally the opposite of what someone might think.

Then there's those with pornography habits...again they don't seem to enjoy real sex with another person....they only seem to enjoy their porn.

Again contradictory to what someone might think.

Both groups want great sexual fulfillment but are unable to achieve it due to their actions. You want great sex? Do what the scriptures say to do. Then it works out.

 

[The Learner]

Something that I have observed....

Those with lots of sexual partners enjoy sex less than those who refrain from sex outside of marriage.

Totally the opposite of what someone might think.

Then there's those with pornography habits...again they don't seem to enjoy real sex with another person....they only seem to enjoy their porn.

Again contradictory to what someone might think.

Both groups want great sexual fulfillment but are unable to achieve it due to their actions. You want great sex? Do what the scriptures say to do. Then it works out.

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is easy to understand. Online, the dots that forms the pictures are closer together and more active which stimulates the brain. In real life, that stimulation is not there, thus one can not get it up and keep it up. There are many studies to this effect.

Google porn effects on errection sexual satisfaction for more information.

 

[JohnDB]

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is easy to understand. Online, the dots that forms the pictures are closer together and more active which stimulates the brain. In real life, that stimulation is not there, thus one can not get it up and keep it up. There are many studies to this effect.

Google porn effects on errection sexual satisfaction for more information.

Never heard that before but ok....
Some things I'm skeared to Google for fear of what might pop up.

 

[RedFan]

Something that I have observed....

Those with lots of sexual partners enjoy sex less than those who refrain from sex outside of marriage.

Totally the opposite of what someone might think.

I'm having trouble understanding how you could gauge this accurately. A's enjoyment and B's enjoyment are not easy things to measure or compare.

 

[Ritajanice]

Just to let you know that I have given all a thumbs up, only because they have participated in my thread.

I can remember going onto a forum once where they had cams, well, I opened one and I could not believe what I was greeted with, no wonder mums and Dads must keep an eye on what their children view, unfortunately that is not always the case, this is where the grooming can take place.

The internet is a wonderful place to find knowledge.

It’s also a place of darkness and depraved people on there.

 

[Taken]

I’m not judging anyone, just voicing my belief.

I don’t believe in sex before marriage, as soon as I gave myself to the Lord, that was it , he is mine I am his, I have been celibate for the past 32 years,I have always been faithful to my 2 husbands that I was married to, I am divorced from both of them,therefore remain faithful to the Lord as I have given myself to him.... I was in my 30s when I became Born Again.

What are your beliefs on sex before marriage if I may ask?

Does Gods word say “ No sex before marriage “?

I would say, FOR manKIND, “intercourse” IS the consummation of a MARRIAGE.

Then the question of WHAT IS A Marriage, arises.
ManKIND, can define, declare, make laws, make regulations, make requirements, declare protocols, blah, blah, blah and ROUTINELY CHANGE those things according to manKINDS whims and self interests.
AND…also according to manKINDS whims and self interests …CAN “dissolve” a Marriage….even to the point of “pretending” by “declaration” a marriage NEVER OCCURRED in the first place!!


Marriage, According to God, (regarding Humans) is revealed In the Knowledge given ManKIND…in the Book of Genesis.

Glory to God,
Taken

 

[Taken]

Just to let you know that I have given all a thumbs up, only because they have participated in my thread.

I can remember going onto a forum once where they had cams, well, I opened one and I could not believe what I was greeted with, no wonder mums and Dads must keep an eye on what their children view, unfortunately that is not always the case, this is where the grooming can take place.

The internet is a wonderful place to find knowledge.

It’s also a place of darkness and depraved people on there.

BINGO….that IS the conundrum inanutshell.

God has Created and Made Wonderful things for manKind to discover and USE FOR GOOD.
Whelp…
those SAME Wonderful things God Created and Made for manKKIND to discover CAN…..BY, THROUGH, OF manKIND’s OWN FREEWILL…ALSO be “USED FOR EVIL and WICKEDNESS”…

In the BIG PICTURE…it only takes a SECOND to Observe and Recognize “ACTS” intended FOR “good, evil, wickedness”.

In the BIG PICTURE…regarding manKIND at large (ie World Population)….
* FEW will and do choose to Promote and exercise GOOD.
* The MAJORITY will and do choose to Promote and exercise EVIL and WICKEDNESS.

Glory to God,
Taken

 

[Rita]

I was pregnant before I got married, but came to faith four years later. Did I know it was wrong and unwise, I was naive and actually felt pressurised. I became pregnant the first time I had intercourse, we married. So in essence he was my only partner. I have no desire to be married again or have another relationship.
Do I regret it, if I did I would be regretting my son and I can’t do that.
I did have to acknowledge that I was out of Gods will , but that was after my divorce when I had to do a lot of self examination.

 

[Ritajanice]

I had sex out of marriage and also got pregnant,I was a non believer both times...I have the faith to believe that God will bring me a husband if it’s his will.
In the meantime I remain faithful to God who will NEVER let me down.
Watch this space, that’s all I’m prepared to share.

 

[Pearl]

It rather depends on if a person is a Christian or not. I think most Christians wouldn't do it. but most non Christians would. My own views are quite open on the subject if two people love each other and are committed in their relationship.

 

[JohnDB]

I'm having trouble understanding how you could gauge this accurately. A's enjoyment and B's enjoyment are not easy things to measure or compare.

Because when people you know for years discuss things as they go through life I notice things. Satisfaction and enjoyment is not exactly as situational as people often view them.

People often have huge incongruencies in the way they cognitively view them...until you point them out blatantly. Then they holler at you to "shut up" about them.

When tendencies get repeated often enough that it becomes a pattern among many people....it's not hard to notice. But I guess the major "trick" to noticing things like this is actually caring about people and not treating them as a cold statistic or super distant co-worker/acquaintance.

I'm not a scientist....I know many and continue to have them as friends. So I could be wrong in my assessment....could be some other thing influencing the outcomes I see. But it happens often enough that I highly recommend against the practices.

 

[Reggie Belafonte]

I’m not judging anyone, just voicing my belief.

I don’t believe in sex before marriage, as soon as I gave myself to the Lord, that was it , he is mine I am his, I have been celibate for the past 32 years,I have always been faithful to my 2 husbands that I was married to, I am divorced from both of them,therefore remain faithful to the Lord as I have given myself to him.... I was in my 30s when I became Born Again.

What are your beliefs on sex before marriage if I may ask?

Does Gods word say “ No sex before marriage “?

I would say that is what one wished for and not to boast about not being Married first.

I talked to a mate of late about such things, he being a rock star and all and i said all this diffrent women thing has never ever been my game. tho i know mates who were obsessed with such ego driven madness, they did not care less about respecting the woman.
I think such is a lack of regard ! would you like such to be done onto you ? No ! so it's pathetic.
I remember when i was 17 a Girl who was all into me but i was not into her, she was good looking but to ruff for me to accept her openly, by that i mean i had no intentions of being her boy friend, let alone Marry her.
I just did not have it for her and the same with other girls, so the warning lights came on and i said no ! and i am so glad now that i am Married to my wife.
I did think of it with them but could not bring myself to such. i did not respect them enough ?
Tho i did love my first girl friend very much so, the smell of her and all but the school worked to destroy that. as i could not go see her or i was to get expelled ! she did not believe that was the case ! She has 12 kids now !

I have got it on with women out of the blue that wanted me as we just clicked some how, but then it was like No ! she is not for me. Smoking or drinking stupid is a big no no for me ! talking trash talk is another. disrespecting herself makes it hard to want such a woman, it has to be more than just sex to be worth it, to me. sadly for me i one way ? that others do just not get ? I would say that people who fall for such sexual relations are under a demonic influence ! for i have seen it in some mates who i know well, their lives are inslaved to crap ! i would hate to be like them. it's a sickness for sure ! and women i know who are just the same boat, it's not good at all !

One thing that suprises me is mothers who let their 14yo girl have sex ! i know of a lot of mothers that full on suport such a pathetic stance and that is why the mate i pointed out at the start was going through ! he kicked them out of his house as he would not stand for it ! so his wife has went for 6 months in order for her own girl, it's not my mates girl ? and this girl's dad does not have her in his house !
My elder brother had the same trouble with his wifes girl to another man, he hatted it ! but the mother insisted it was ok at 14yo.

From the man of the house possition, it comes down to this, 1/ others know ? and think you are a total fool for a start ! even if you agree with them ? 2/ it's illigal ! and you are seen as a, who the hell is he ? A child molester or somthing sexual moron, queer ? and that's just for starters. but why do mothers support such 100%.

 

[Hemenesstey]

We should not forget that sex is our physiological need and the way to the main instinct of reproduction. Otherwise, porn would not be so popular. And marriage is essentially a formal contract invented or imposed by society. The main thing is that you and your partner are happy with everything, and everything else is trivial.

 

[Behold]

And marriage is essentially a formal contract invented or imposed by society.

God has ordained "marriage" as "man and woman".

Any "sex" outside of this which God has defined as "marriage", is "sin".

 

[Bob]

We should not forget that sex is our physiological need and the way to the main instinct of reproduction. And marriage is essentially a formal contract invented or imposed by society. The main thing is that you and your partner are happy with everything, and everything else is trivial.

We are social mammals, and our basic nature is to behave like a social mammal: each must see to itself for food, water, healthcare, etc.; they live hierarchal groups maintained by “might makes right”; and it is primarily the alpha males that mate and pass their genes to the next generation.

We see this destructive behavior in many cities: handsome, charming young men bedding numerous women, and consequently many poor, single women with children by multiple fathers, all fostering future more of the same.

The best societies reject strict social mammal behavior: we take care of each other, we desist from intentionally harming others, and we base our society on the nuclear family: a life-long, monogamous, faithful marriage between a woman and a man.

It is no accident that all the major religions, and world-wide indigenous peoples, restrict sex to married couples. Indeed, one of the purposes of the public marriage ceremony and vows has always been to let the community know who is married to whom, and that outside affairs will not be tolerated.

The people of God believe marriage is ordained by God. Secularists will need to find a rationale for its world-wide establishment and importance to society.

 

[Ritajanice]

God has ordained "marriage" as "man and woman".

Any "sex" outside of this which God has defined as "marriage", is "sin".

Exactly and a Born Again can’t sin because they have been Born Of God’s seed.

 

[Wynona]

I believe relationships are more like tattoos than bandaids and that sex is always a spiritual connection.

1 Corinthians 6:15-17
King James Version
15 Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of an harlot? God forbid.

16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.

17 But he that is joined unto the Lord is one spirit.


Sex before marriage is the sin of fornication in the Bible.

 

[JohnDB]

Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is easy to understand. Online, the dots that forms the pictures are closer together and more active which stimulates the brain. In real life, that stimulation is not there, thus one can not get it up and keep it up. There are many studies to this effect.

Google porn effects on errection sexual satisfaction for more information.

I have read that it's a dopamine tolerance that gets increased....
IOW your body produces various dopamines (a type class of neuro chemicals) that increase excitement before and during sex...and a euphoria afterwards.

Viewing pornography stimulates certain parts without stimulating other neuro chemicals which then are no longer as effective at producing the stimulation required for sexual activities. Hence the ED and disinterest.

Now that AI is producing Pornography....I expect that it will be tested thoroughly to see which type of pictures and features to enhance in order to produce the most addictive photos and movies possible. Actors or producers no longer required. Just the patrons.

And nobody will be a part of the industry except for some guy/girl behind a keyboard assisting in creating the people through design choices.

Victoria Secret is that the model's faces were all that were really used for their catalogs...the rest was airbrushed....the airbrush guy was in my SS class. It hasn't gotten better. In fact now with AI....no more modeling. People are too "messy" with all their changing and erratic sizes. So if it doesn't fit like you think it should it's your fault. It fit perfectly on the computer generated model. Further making people neurotic over how their clothes fit.

Most of the people performing on YouTube and TicTok have glamor filters. One conservative "Christian" young lady is notorious for giving herself a tan and glow and better facial appearance....even did a movie recently with her as snow white....(not Disney).....we shall see what comes.

Believe half of what you see
Believe nothing you hear.

And avoid porn like it's heroin.