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Your baby brother dies while you are still a child. You've never really lived life, just on autopilot. You're in debt up to your eyeballs. You're addicted to alchol just to take the edge off.

I dont know what to do. Sometimes I feel like life isn't worth living. The pain of everything is just do much to endure. I think about Jesus and what he endured on the cross. It makes me want to keep going.

But it's just such an awful existence. To exist for others, but never truly live. I hate it so much. I don't know what to do. I can't rely on myself, just screw everything up.

I'm sorry. I don't mean to burden others with my problems. But it's just so hard. It wasn't supposed to be so hard. Living life shouldn't be a disaster at every waking moment. I just want to be happy. I want to be able to tell Jesus that in sorry. That I tried so hard. I tried my best to believe in him.

In my heart, that's where I am. An overwhelming sense of sadness and hopelessness. If this is what hell feels like, then I'm already there.
Hey Riven,
I'm sorry to learn of the loss of your brother. That's very sad. This life is not understandable often. I've had my share of really hard things as well. If you don't mind, I would like to share with you what has helped me. It took me a long time to get the courage but once I did, I realized that I shouldn't have waited.
Express through prayer to God just how difficult that experience was, and don't hold back- tell Him all of it. He already knows your heart anyway, but I found intimacy with Him when I was just downright honest about all things. He made you and he made your brother and he understands pain. Don't give up- keep talking to Him. Be honest about how you feel, and your doubts and your sorrows, your failings, your desire to know Him, and everything you can think of to discuss with Him. You believe Jesus is God's Son. You struggle with things and so do we all. He will hear you. Talk to Him.
We can study and read all of our lives but nothing is better than opening your heart in prayer. He isn't called Wonderful Counselor for nothing. He still heals.

I fully believe that your brother will be resurrected one day by the Lord Jesus. I know that doesn't change things now, but it is a promise to hope & rely upon.
 
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“The more something threatens your identity, the more you will avoid doing it.”

(Manson’s Law of Avoidance)
 

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Well, it's my life we're talking about here. I've already made many stupid decisions. I'd prefer to make the right one this time.

It’s your life and you can do what you want.

Do you think it might be a stupid decision to read Flew’s book? To pray? To read the Bible? Are you actively doing any of those things? Or are you just thinking about doing them?
 

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It’s your life and you can do what you want.

Do you think it might be a stupid decision to read Flew’s book? To pray? To read the Bible? Are you actively doing any of those things? Or are you just thinking about doing them?
Thinking about doing them. I tend to get ideas that sound really good at the time, like reading the books you mentioned. But then I get distracted by other things.
 

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Thinking about doing them. I tend to get ideas that sound really good at the time, like reading the books you mentioned. But then I get distracted by other things.

Thanks. I’m getting a clearer picture.
 
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Your baby brother dies while you are still a child. You've never really lived life, just on autopilot. You're in debt up to your eyeballs. You're addicted to alchol just to take the edge off.

I dont know what to do. Sometimes I feel like life isn't worth living. The pain of everything is just do much to endure. I think about Jesus and what he endured on the cross. It makes me want to keep going.

But it's just such an awful existence. To exist for others, but never truly live. I hate it so much. I don't know what to do. I can't rely on myself, just screw everything up.

I'm sorry. I don't mean to burden others with my problems. But it's just so hard. It wasn't supposed to be so hard. Living life shouldn't be a disaster at every waking moment. I just want to be happy. I want to be able to tell Jesus that in sorry. That I tried so hard. I tried my best to believe in him.

In my heart, that's where I am. An overwhelming sense of sadness and hopelessness. If this is what hell feels like, then I'm already there.
Here's something that will be tremendously helpful:
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The so called kubler-ross grief cycle is nothing but man made psychobabble

God's Word is the only place where effective help can be found :gd
 

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The so called kubler-ross grief cycle is nothing but man made psychobabble

God's Word is the only place where effective help can be found :gd
Am I supposed to answer this post? I can never tell in those types of replies post things that is something something something that I can't figure out.
 

2bme

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Listen Christian's.

It seems you lack a real interest in other people's interest, and you only pose an interest so long as there's opportunity to talk about Jesus. Seems very one sided, and the worst part of it is that you stop other people getting to know you and your interest.
 

2bme

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I get what Jesus meant by:

13“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You shut the door of the kingdom of heaven in people’s faces. You yourselves do not enter, nor will you let those enter who are trying to.
 

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Am I supposed to answer this post? I can never tell in those types of replies post things that is something something something that I can't figure out.


It's up to you if you if you if you want to reply or not.

Nobody is gonna make you reply if ya don't want to :nnna





It seems you lack a real interest in other people's interest, and you only pose an interest so long as there's opportunity to talk about Jesus. Seems very one sided, and the worst part of it is that you stop other people getting to know you and your interest.

What if our only interest is Jesus and they don't want to hear about Him?
 

2bme

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I thought the kingdom of God was about being known and knowing through and through.

It's how Paul describes it.
 

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1 Corinthians 13
9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
 

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Why does Paul say "in part?" That's not a full revelation of God. It's a part revelation of God. For now times we have people of the ministries running around claiming they possess the full revelation of God, and we need to know nothing more.
 

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It's up to you if you if you if you want to reply or not.

Nobody is gonna make you reply if ya don't want to :nnna







What if our only interest is Jesus and they don't want to hear about Him?
Who doesn't know about Jesus and Christianity. Christian's own the world.