That's an interesting point.
What is the difference between the born again experience and a self-determined choice of an individual to clean up their life?
Perhaps nothing, but Jesus requires it.
Jesus replied, “Very truly I tell you, no one can see the kingdom of God unless they are born again.[a]”- John 3:3 NIV
Before Christ's ministry, John the Baptist was administering the baptism of repentance. (a turning)
And James reminds us that faith without works (confirmation of repentance) is dead.
So, while a "born again" (start over) experience can be had through various means, it is a requirement for faith in Christ.
My view on what it means to be “born again” is vastly different to Christendom’s. For the majority in the ”church” system, regardless of denomination, the expectation is for all Christians to go to heaven....but according to Scripture that is not the case....only those invited to heaven will “enter” and “see” the kingdom of God.
So what is the “Kingdom of God”? Also called “the Kingdom of heaven” by John B (Matt 3:2)
In Isaiah’s prophesy he spoke about a “government” being “on the shoulders” of the “Prince of Peace”. (Isa 9:6)
The word “government there is “
miśrâ” and it means...”rule, dominion, government”
In verse 7 it says...
“There will be no end to the increase of His government or of peace,
On the throne of David and over his kingdom,
To establish it and to uphold it with justice and righteousness
From then on and forevermore.
The zeal of the LORD of hosts will accomplish this.” (NASB)
So God’s Kingdom is a government with the “Prince of Peace” at the helm. It will rule the whole world in “justice and righteousness” from its establishment over the redeemed human race, and this rulership will last forever. Who accomplishes this? “The LORD (Yahweh) of hosts.”
This Kingdom is the re-stablishment of God’s rule over mankind, crushing failed human rulerships out of existence and replacing them with one righteous government for all mankind, as it was supposed to be in the beginning. (Foretold in Dan 2:44)
Psalm 2 was a far reaching prophesy concerning this rulership that God would place in the hands of his son.
It shows the nations being in tumult, and world rulers banding together against God and his anointed king. (Also spoken about in Revelation as the prelude to Armageddon.)
God laughs at them and vents his anger on them.....
“But as for Me, I have installed My King Upon Zion, My holy mountain.” . . . ‘Ask of Me, and I will surely give the nations as Your inheritance, And the very ends of the earth as Your possession. . . . ‘You shall break them with a rod of iron, You shall shatter them like earthenware.’” . . . Do homage to the Son, that He not become angry, and you perish in the way, For His wrath may soon be kindled. How blessed are all who take refuge in Him!” (NASB)
As a Jew, David had an entirely earthly view of the Kingdom, as did Jesus’ first disciples, but with the outpouring of the Holy Spirit at Pentecost, these disciples were anointed for a role in the government/kingdom that was foretold.....but even though its rule would be over the earth, it’s location would be in heaven.
Hebrews 12:22-24...
“But you have come to Mount Zion and to the city of the living God, the heavenly Jerusalem, and to myriads of angels, to the general assembly and church of the firstborn who are enrolled in heaven, and to God, the Judge of all, and to the spirits of the righteous made perfect, and to Jesus, the mediator of a new covenant, and to the sprinkled blood, which speaks better than the blood of Abel.” (NASB)
Those looking to geographical Israel and fleshly Jews as the fulfilment of the Messianic prophesied are looking in the wrong place, and concentrating on the wrong people.
“The Israel of God” (Gal 6:16) are Christ’s anointed disciples who are heaven bound....those who are personally chosen by God for the role of “kings and priests”, ruling over the earth. (Rev 14:1-5; Rev 20:6)
That means that Jesus’ words to his early disciples....those who were to be “born again”.....had a different destination to those resurrected later, back to the earth. (John 5:28-29) There are clearly two resurrections...the “first resurrection” is to heaven, (necessitating a rebirth to spirit life, as all those in the heavenly realm must be in spirit form, as God is) and the general resurrection of the dead takes place once the Kingdom’s rule is established on the earth.
So being “born again” is not just something that happens to all who claim Jesus as their Lord. (Matt 7:21-23) It’s not just a change of personality and direction in life. It is an anointing that gives these ones an inordinate desire to be where their Lord Jesus is.....to go and live where he went to “prepare a place” for them. That anointing was a token or guarantee of their choosing. The NIV calls it a “deposit”.
Paul wrote to the Ephesians....
“In him you also, when you heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and believed in him, were sealed with the promised Holy Spirit, who is the guarantee of our inheritance until we acquire possession of it, to the praise of his glory.” (Eph 1:13-14 ESV)
It was implanted as an expectation of something not yet acquired.
You had to hear the message of the gospel first, and then respond to it. There was no being “born again” out of the blue....the Holy Spirit does not arrive, unannounced and uninvited. Those who have that experience need to rethink the basis for it.
Those who will be “born again” are resurrected in a completely new body.....the kind that Christ received at his resurrection. They die a death like his and receive a resurrection like his....which is called being “baptized into his death”.
There is so much confusion about the “Kingdom”...what it is...where it is...what it’s for...and who goes there?
The Bible answers all those questions if we really study it, rather than a cursory reading through one of Christendom’s many lenses.