hmm...i know this is a hard thing to grasp, but God does not even see those things; we even have vv that verify this. I'm not a parent, but my guess is that a mother could explain here better than me.
I said I wouldn’t argue it but there is more. I’m just sharing. Believe what you want but I direct you to:
Matthew 26:66-68
[66] What think ye? They answered and said, He is guilty of death. [67] Then did they spit in his face, and buffeted him; and others smote him with the palms of their hands, [68] Saying, Prophesy unto us, thou Christ, Who is he that smote thee?
“Prophesy unto us, thou Christ, Who is he that smote thee?”
First, THEY called Him Christ. In mockery most assuredly. But they asked “ Who smote thee?”
Mark 14:27-28
[27] And Jesus saith unto them, All ye shall be offended because of me this night: for it is written, I will smite the shepherd, and the sheep shall be scattered. [28] But after that I am risen, I will go before you into Galilee.
‘I’ will smite the shepherd, and the sheep shall be scattered. Satan would love to claim the work of Christ. Man would love to claim it. But Satan was never in control. As a great fish was prepared (by God) to swallow Jonah, also the crucifixion was prepared by God to swallow the Son so death and hell were defeated.
Deuteronomy 32:37-39
[37] And he shall say, Where are their gods, their rock in whom they trusted, [38] Which did eat the fat of their sacrifices, and drank the wine of their drink offerings? let them rise up and help you, and be your protection. [39] See now that I, even I, am he, and there is no god with me: I kill, and I make alive; I wound, and I heal: neither is there any that can deliver out of my hand.
So if asked in mockery “Who sent you to live with a brutal step-Father that broke you down until all hope of ever being loved was gone?” I will say, “God did”. God did it and He is using it to the fullest.