Premarital sex, resulted in a life handed over to the cruel one (Proverbs 5:9) - now I can't escape? (help?)

@Gottservant

You are not the first "Christian" who has had sex before marriage. The pre-marital sex was a sign that you had already turned away from God. I know because I have seen the same signs of having turned away from God.

If you will humble yourself and confess your sin of turning away from God, then He will heal your life/land.

Now, concerning your "partner" you can ask God to include her among those Whom He is drawing to Himself. It is just a simple prayer on your part, but it is a prayer that requires much faith on your part. You only need to pray this prayer once, but you can follow this prayer up with Praise and worship on your part that God has heard your prayer and is working towards the outcome of where your partner will be drawn into God's loving embrace and salvation. This Salvation work is God's to perform, although you may be asked to play some part in the drawing of your partner to God.

You may need to pray that God will increase your patience as you wait for your partner's salvation.

When her salvation comes you can then both celebrate together in what God has done in her life.

What you need to do until then is to maintain your relationship with God and to walk in his ways every day as you live out your life for Him

Shalom

Like many things in life once you cross the line its easier and easier every-time to cross it again.You loose your innocents to that sin and its easier to commit.Like all sins it gets easier the more you commit it best not to cross certain lines in life.Drugs sex murder you name it.It destroys your morality over time.Confess it as a sin to God and repent its the only path stop immediately or speak to a professional to find out why you feel the way you do.Live in the spirit not the flesh.This is a battle you keep loosing in your mind its where we fight against sin it starts in the mind first and comes out of you it can be stopped you need to throw those thoughts out until they don't come anymore. Yes it will be a battle you chose to cross the line and a price has to be paid.

Gottservant said:

Hi there,

So to be frank, I had pre-marital sex and developed a sexual dysfunction (constant desire). My relationship with the person in question, is nowhere. I now don't trust myself and feel very weak about things I should be strong about (the importance of a healthy relationship, God having part of that relationship, taking up my cross to defend that relationship). It is the Devil's doing, but sometimes (at least without talking about it) he seems to get every dart he wants to pierce my armour. I even learned to stay pure, since having that relationship, but I seem to struggle at both ends of the candle.

I don't know what you can do, what you can pray - but I did ask for prayer at a Church once and it seemed to help (just not completely, being on its own). Have you ever felt stuck, and the anxiety of being stuck just takes over? That's what it is like for me!

We'll laugh about it one day, but please - in the meantime - pray!

Love,
C

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Are you planning on getting married?

People will disagree with me, I know. This has been taught in the churches to prevent issues.

1 Corinthians 7:36

If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.


In my opinion, the verse isn't declaring marriage being a sin. It wouldn't be an act that would be dishonorable.


I read it as he is not sinning, but they need to get married.

Ziggy said:

I know.
I am not alone brother. Only in the world. Not in my spirit.
Jesus is my only friend. He is my treasure and my daily bread.
He is with me all the time.
It's only times like these I feel alone because my focus is on the flesh and on the world around me instead of where it should be.

That's why I am always here. These are my friends that I have in this world.
And they help me, like you are helping me.
And it is much appreciated.

:)
Hugs

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Did pa go home ziggy or is he still here . March on in the LORD my friend .