If there is abuse within the marriage, divorce and move on. Compassion and empathy cannot be taught and behavior modification does not transform.
Marriage and divorce are used as a metaphor for freedom from the Law and Romans 7 lets us know what happens after belief in Jesus Christ and with the marriage of salvation, Ephesians 5:31, you are not bound by the Law, a new husband, and a new spirit are given, Romans 7:6.
Most of Romans 7 deals with working out, coming to terms with and dealing with the spooks of a past marriage and the more you go back to the old marriage, first husband, Law, in order to live your life, it's considered adultery and sin takes over, Romans 6:14, Romans 5:20.
I have a question for everyone out there. Through recent trials and tribulations I have had questions in my mind. If a marriage has ended, they have separated and divorce is the outcome but it hasn't happened yet, are you able to have another relationship before the divorce is final? I only ask this out of curiosity. My general feeling is that it is wrong and you shouldn't pursue another relationship until after the divorce is final but I wanted everyone to weigh in on this one and tell me what they think.
It is your choice to live by a moral code or by the Law of the Spirit. Would moving onto a new relationship before the "ink is dry" bring you peace or confusion?
Romans 8:2, because through Christ Jesus the law of the Spirit who gives life has set you free from the law of sin and death.
Romans 14:17, For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, PEACE and joy in the Holy Spirit,