I think you are presupposing that the one who "active voice" receives is changed so that they will in fact receive, and my presupposition is that the one who receives is changed so that they are able to in fact received. In the question of "who caused the receiving", by the syntax from the verse alone, I'd be forced to conclude it was the one who received.
I'm not even sure what you're trying to say, here... :) If God purposes to save a person, He sends His Spirit, and that person is born again of the Spirit. Having been given new life in the Spirit, that person has a new heart/nature that is of God, and the person subsequently -- and inevitably; he cannot do otherwise -- makes the free-will choice to repent and believe on Christ as his Lord and Savior. The heart is changed, and the heart drives the will. To be quite honest, I'm not sure if that refutes or agrees with what you have said here.
...a common answer opposing my view would be that they were not able to receive, and therefore were changed, and as a direct and inevitable result of that change, they then did receive Jesus. Does that represent your thinking on this?
Well, again, this seems a bit discombobulated. I'll just put it in football terms and say if God kicks off, man is going to receive. I think I would rephrase what you said here by just saying, they are then not able to reject Jesus. This is not because they are incapable of rejecting Him, but to do so would be to go against their very nature, against their heart, and they will not do this. Again, to be quite honest, I'm not sure if that refutes or agrees with what you have said here.
I agree, all sin, all are depraved. I agree that of ourselves, we do not seek God. But I think God doesn't leave us like that, and I don't think there is anyone God prefers to not be saved.
Good; I totally agree with this.
I look at passages such as "If I be lifted up from the earth (crucified) I will draw all men to Myself", and, "For the grace of God unto salvation has appeared to all men . . ."
Sure. There is a general call that goes out (is offered and available) to all. But there is also particular call issued by God via His Holy Spirit, and that is given only to His elect.
I would call my view prevenient grace, that is, grace that is useful ahead of time, but please don't align me with either Calvin or Arminius.
I am not labeling you in any way or aligning you with Calvin or Arminius. Only you can actually align yourself with anything; no one can do that for you. However, It is certainly possible to have Arminian beliefs, while not aligning yourself with Jacobus Arminius. And by the same token, it is certainly possible to have Calvinistic beliefs, while not aligning yourself with John Calvin.
Having said that, prevenient grace (or enabling grace) is a Christian theological concept
rooted in Arminian theology (though it appeared earlier in Catholic theologies). Prevenient grace, as I'm sure you well know, is the supposition that the grace given by God precedes the act of a sinner exercising saving faith in Jesus Christ. It's the latter part of that sentence that is the problem; it makes faith out to be a work, and that is directly opposed to what Paul says in Ephesians 2:8-10...
"For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast. For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them."
Faith is the gift of God subsequently manifests itself in the form of the fruit of the Spirit -- good works.
And I was reluctant to ask that question of being Calvinist, I'm not into labels, but it does help me get a focus on how you are thinking of things.
Sure, no worries.
Grace and peace to you.