Angelina,
I hope I didn't come across as though I were upset with you. I just think that articles like this surface almost daily anymore. I don't mind a healthy critique of the church. I think we are all comfortable to say that the Church has issues. I think the problem I have with articles like this is that they have nothing constructive to say. Imagine if someone came into your job and posted a listing of 10 ways you fail as an employee. Sometimes employees need to be shown what they are doing wrong. My point is, almost all of these articles that critique the church I have read have no meaningful insights or suggestions. As an employee at your job, you probably would not mind being shown what you are doing wrong as long as they show you how to do it right. But simply to point out faults is not overly helpful.
What you wrote is much nicer than this author. I mean, look at this list! You are the problem. Your Sunday service is worn thin. Your love doesn't look like love. You choose lousy battles. First, every church reader who reads this immediately is told that they are miserable failures for God. Has this guy been to the church of the person reading this? Probably not. Yet the way it is written is says, "Hey you, church leader, no one likes what you are doing on Sunday." I just don't think Jesus would make such blanket insults to people in his body...many of which put their heart and soul into what they do (even if some aren't as gifted as others). So, I am not saying that some of these critiques are not accurate. I am saying that these critiques are not universal (which is implied by the article) and that there is no real encouragement or advice.
Beyond the tone of the article, I think the author is wrong on a lot of issues. For instance, "Sunday morning isn't making a difference..." I think the problem many have with the church today is that they have unrealistic expectations. People want community, someone to be there all the time, depth, insight, growth, etc. However, most people work 40-50 hours a week, have kids activities for another 10 hours a week, and usually like to do something recreational from time to time on the weekend. And, they want the local church to meet ALL their spiritual needs. So, when is the church supposed to squeeze all this depth, insight, community, fellowship, etc., into the lives of people who are usually doing good to spare an hour on Sunday and an hour on Wednesday. The fact is, the Sunday gathering isn't SUPPOSED to be the be-all and end-all of someone's spiritual life. It is a time of encouragement, worship, teaching and communion that is to help people focus on the Lord the remainder of the week. It's just a short gathering for a specific purpose...and that purpose is to focus on God...not be people's "space, breath, conversation, and relationship." Pretty much every large church I know has small groups for such purposes. If the Sunday service is nothing more than a "rock show" for this author, than maybe the problem is in their heart, not the leadership of the church. Nobody can inject worship into another. Of course, if the church doesn't put on a "rock show" then the next article will be that the church is too old fashioned, disconnected and uninterested in the music and communication of contemporary culture. Sigh. I visited a church of 23,000 that had a 53 million dollar building that everyone and their dog loves to criticize. However, Thom Rainer did research on this church and found that they spent about half per square foot of their building per person attending than most of the churches of 50-100 that were criticizing their extravagance. Moreover, most churches I have heard of give a minimum of 10% of everything they receive to various missions, not to mention the various ministries in the church that work in the community. The reality is that we live in a culture that determines the value and importance of a message by the professional or unprofessional means by which it is presented. No one is going to see black and white movies, no matter how good the acting or plots may be. Many churches understand that in order to communicate with this media and musically inclined culture in a large group setting, it takes a lot of planning and professionalism. So most people that criticize churches for the inability to "see past their building" are usually very ignorant about the real issues.
Anyway, I know you didn't mean this article in a negative way but as something constructive to learn from. Please know I am not directing these comments at you, but articles like these. Because, when I read these, I don't see much constructive conversation going on. Most just contain negative criticisms that usually are not only very critical and all-encompassing in their attacks, but also not well thought out in their expectations. I think if these people spent as much time praying for and encouraging their church leaders as they did thinking up all their frustrations and writing articles about it, the church would be better off. Again, I am not saying the church and its leaders do not have their issues...that SHOULD be addressed, I am just saying that there is a more Christ-like approach than the ones these bloggers often take.