well, "I came not to bring peace..." but anyway i gotta tell ya that practically speaking, like on more of a personal level, Catholics exhibit more grace in this area. i mean generally speaking, and imo.
i am learning from them right now, something quite pertinent here imo; to be tolerant of some turmoil, maybe even allow some in in the name of Charity or whatever. Where i am working here in Flint is like a House of Second Chances, and rooms are afforded to...difficult to house people, let's say. My best friend, a Catholic, runs it--not that the Catholic part matters so much, but he is, after all--and with all these "problem" people here that to me contribute nothing much to the program, and yet he is not all militant in running it, he's very understanding with them, and i am struck by the response. We're talking ex-crackheads here, like that.
and this guy is trying to bring up an Intentional Community, lots of work. It seemed like suicide to me to take on this Second Chances thing. I'm mildly Asperger's don't deal with stress too well, would tend to your perspective up there, iow squashing division etc, but the pooint i guess maybe i'm not getting across very well is how this inviting what i would call Chaos in and then watching these people transform mostly because of some gentle acceptance, warts and all, is a theme i have seen played out now several times in what i would call "Catholic" settings.
of course deliberate repeated instigators aren't tolerated for too long, but we don't see much of that anyway.
Be slower to impose control and quicker to be tolerant of some what you would term division, etc, in order to let it play out, that the fruit may be witnessed, iow, or that your influence might sway them, seems to be what they regularly shoot for. We kind of expect God will send us ppl that are going to be somewhat of a problem now, but that we might still be part of the cure, like that.