Men are supposed to rule over women. Hmmmmmm, Yes this is true. Women are supposed to submit to their husbands. Hmmmmmm, Yes this is true.
What does it mean to rule? Is a king supposed to sit on his throne and be served and pampered? Is a king supposed to have responsibilities and have charge over his kingdom?
So, to rule over means,,,,,,,,,, To protect, to provide for. The responsibilites of the ruler are to be a servant, not to be served. If a ruler does his job correctly, the people under his rule will serve him because he does what he's supposed to.
So, a husband ruling over his wife is supposed to guide her, help her, provide for her, protect her, and is supposed to do this out of love. A bad ruler who causes revolt in his kingdom makes demands, and does not take into consideration the feelings, ideas, and well being of those under his rule.
What does it mean to serve? To give everything the ruler demands? I don't think so.
To serve recognises the ruler, and that the ruler is doing his job and has a job to do. To serve means not trying to gain the rulers responsibilities, and to help and assist in any way possible to make ruling easier and more pleasant for all involved. A true servant recognises that the job and responsibilites of the ruler are not theirs.
It's a partnership, where one does and the other reciprocates. You can't have two rulers on equal footing, Just like Jesus says, "You can't serve two masters" The same way, if men and women were equal in position in the marriage, there will be fighting and neither will help the other because they both feel it's their "right" to do this or that.
For what ever reason God chose a male to be the leader, and the female to be the servant.
The problem is, women don't like that word "servant" and people get ate up about "In Christ, there is no male or female". This has nothing to do with the subject at hand, but only dealing directly with salvation and eternal life.
I think if people would put down their bibles for one whole month and read the definitions in the dictionary we'd have way fewer debates, and there would be no such thing as femenism in the church.