Both. When you have sex with a woman you get her pregnant, but God is the one that puts their body and spirit together. As to your OP, I am impressed with a man's heart more than anything else.
Thankfully not every time or you're going to end up with 700 babies at the end of the year!
I am not Catholic... Nu-uh! NO. ...NO. .......................NO.
Anyway, I go for virtue and gentleness. I like it when someone listens. Not to give judgment but just to listen. Good listener and communicator are a big plus. Other than that, if you have to go out of your way and do something outside of yourself, it's probably better just to run from it. She isn't worth it.
The motivation to impress will eventually die out after you're settled in. If everything starts off as a lie, then the future goes nowhere. You don't want to disappoint someone who doesn't know you, when you can have someone who just loves
you.
My dad's judgment is based off of men opening the door, his eye contact, and the firmness of his handshake. Not really sure how that relates to a man's relationship skills, but okay.