You're contradicting yourself, on the one hand you say that we must obey the commandments and abide in Him. Then you admit that we don't, (or we do sometimes). Then you say that grace doesn't remove the call to obedience, then you say that grace gives us the power to walk in it, (I think you mean to obey the commandments).
So, I'm getting a mixed message here. I don't know if you believe we are saved by our obedience in keeping the law, or are we saved by grace. You can't have it both ways, Gods word says we are saved by grace, through the gift of faith. so you can't boast that you were saved by your works.
The burden that Jesus describes is nothing to do with the narrow path, because He promised that those of us who are on the narrow path will be hated by the world and we will suffer persecution and be killed. Now that doesn't sound like a light yoke at all.
The Lord Jesus knew that we can't keep any of His commandments, except for the easy one which takes no effort at all, that being to place our trust in Him, and He then does all the work of salvation for us, and we only contribute filthy rags to His finished work.
The Lord Jesus knew that the rich young ruler was not one of Gods elect, that's why He gave him the impossible task of kipping the commandments. But you will never find the Lord Jesus ever demanding anything from Gods chosen/elect. We are already saved, so you don't set conditions for someone to achieve if they already have the prize.
I have already inherited eternal life, because I am already saved, so I don't need to keep any commandment to earn my salvation. Your denomination teaches, the "saved by works" unbiblical version of the gospel.
I try to obey the commandments as much as I can, but I'm just like the rest of Gods Saints, we all continue to sin everyday for the rest of our lives. I don't chose to sin everyday, I sin because I have not attained sinless perfection. I will become like Christ, in the life to come, until then I will sin everyday and the gates of hell can't stop me from claiming my inheritance.
Here is a clear and simple reply to you that you can learn from. Keeping everything grounded in Jesus’ own words and explaining grace as the work of the Holy Spirit, not permission to ignore obedience.
There is no contradiction once we keep Jesus’ words in their proper place. Jesus never taught that obedience saves us by earning eternal life, and He also never taught that obedience is optional or meaningless. He taught that life comes from God, and obedience flows from remaining in Him.
Jesus said, “I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing” (John 15:5, NKJV). Notice the order. Life comes first from abiding in Him. Fruit comes after. Fruit is not the root. Obedience is the fruit of a living connection to Christ, not the price paid to buy salvation.
When Jesus says, “If you love Me, keep My commandments” (John 14:15), He is not saying, “Keep commandments so I will love you.” He is saying that love produces obedience. A living tree bears fruit because it is alive. It does not become alive by forcing fruit to grow.
Grace is not a legal covering that excuses disobedience. Grace is God’s power at work in us through the Holy Spirit. Jesus promised this clearly. He said, “The Helper, the Holy Spirit… will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all things that I said to you” (John 14:26). Grace is God coming to live in us, changing the heart, guiding, correcting, strengthening, and helping us walk as Jesus walked.
This is why Jesus could say, “My yoke is easy and My burden is light” (Matthew 11:30). The burden is not obedience itself. The burden He removes is trying to live for God without God living in us. The narrow path is hard because the world hates truth, not because God’s commands are cruel. Persecution comes from men, not from God’s commandments.
Jesus never taught that trusting Him replaces obedience. He taught that trusting Him makes obedience possible. He said, “He who hears My words and does them, I will liken him to a wise man” (Matthew 7:24). He did not say, “He who hears My words and ignores them.”
The rich young ruler was not given an “impossible task” to prove he was not chosen. Jesus exposed his heart. When Jesus listed the commandments, the man claimed obedience, but his heart was still bound to his wealth. Jesus was showing him what ruled him. Jesus does this often, because He looks at the heart, not labels like elect or not elect.
Jesus did demand obedience from those who followed Him. He said to His disciples, “Why do you call Me ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do the things which I say?” (Luke 6:46). He spoke these words to people who already believed in Him.
Eternal life is a gift, but it is a living relationship, not a legal document stored away while life stays unchanged. Jesus defined eternal life this way: “This is eternal life, that they may know You, the only true God, and Jesus Christ whom You have sent” (John 17:3). Knowing Him means walking with Him.
Yes, believers still stumble. Jesus knew this. That is why He taught forgiveness, repentance, and mercy. But He never taught that daily sin is inevitable or harmless. He said, “Go and sin no more” (John 8:11). Not as condemnation, but as a call to a new way of life through God’s power.
The gates of hell cannot overcome those who remain in Christ, but remaining in Christ means continuing in His word. Jesus said, “If you abide in My word, you are My disciples indeed” (John 8:31).
So this is not salvation by works, and it is not salvation without obedience. It is salvation by God’s life within us. Grace is by the Holy Spirit given to us, not to remove obedience, but to write God’s law on the heart and give us strength to walk in it.
As for sin, Jesus never told us to carry the weight of a whole lifetime on our shoulders. He knows our weakness, and He speaks to us with kindness. That is why He said, “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble” (Matthew 6:34, NKJV).
Jesus is not asking for perfection tomorrow, next year, or for the rest of our lives all at once. He calls us to walk with Him today. One step, one choice, one moment at a time. Just as God gave Israel manna for one day and not for many days ahead, Jesus teaches us to
depend on God daily, not in fear,
but in trust.
This is how grace works in real life. The Holy Spirit helps us now, in this moment. When we fall, we rise again and return to Him. When we are weak, He gives strength for today. We do not obey to earn life, and we do not give up because we stumble. We stay close to Jesus and let Him lead us forward, one day at a time.Jesus said, “Abide in Me” (John 15:4). He did not say, “Solve everything at once.” He invites us to walk with Him today, and tomorrow He will be there again.
Blessings