My dear friend. There is no passage that calls the man the head of the house hold. What it says is that he is the head of the wife. But in the same context we find that Christ is the head of the church and the Father the head of the Son. You are confusing the word with "lord". Headship is a relationship term, not an authoritative term. In their relationship, Jesus sits at the right hand of the Father. They are joint creators of all things. They have joint rulership over creation.
The husband and wife have joint rulership over the household. They are partners. But as the head of the wife, the man is responsible for her well being and safety. He is the caregiver, the lifegiver, and the savior of the wife. We are to love our wives as Christ loved the church and gave His life for her. It is unfair and untruthful to say that the man's role is in any way superior to the woman's in a relationship. They are both equally important, though different. In the church, we also have differing roles, but in fact we are in no way inferior or superior to one another.
Consider your own head. Does it rule over your body? Is it superior to any other part? It is the part of you that cares for the rest of your body. When your body is hungry, your head goes into action. When in pain, in distress, cold, tired, etc., your head goes into action to meet the needs of the body. The head is the servant of the body. You have it backwards, my friend.
Furthermore, men and women are hard wired in such a way as to reveal the kind of interaction we have with God. He initiated the relationship. We respond. Those are seen as male and female traits. Men pursue. Women recieve and respond. He courts her and proposes. This is how our relationship with God happens. We love Him because He first loved us. But in the old covenant, they served God out of duty. A man's wife may certainly do that out of duty as well, if he has the attitude of rulership over her. But try loving her as I described and see how different her response becomes. She is built to respond, and take it from me, a woman knows how to care for others. You as a man, can't match it.
I know from experience, and learned the hard way. But I learned, thank God.