Nowhere does it say he sacrificed himself for all individuals. Jesus said he lays down his life for the sheep. We cannot choose God on our own. Not because it is not allowed, but because nobody wants to. Your quote of Jesus to Pilate actually supports my position by the way.
A dictator that rules without compassion? How on earth do you get that from anything I have said? I have said the complete OPPOSITE. The fact that he saves even one person shows mercy and compassion. And yes, he wills some to eternal life based on nothing that they do. Do you believe in a works-based salvation? And you are incorrect to say others burn based on nothing that they do, that is 100% false and a heresy. They burn because of their sin.
You question God. That is exactly what Paul warned against.
19 You will say to me then, “Why does he still find fault? For who can resist his will?” 20 But who are you, O man, to answer back to God? Will what is molded say to its molder, “Why have you made me like this?” 21 Has the potter no right over the clay, to make out of the same lump one vessel for honorable use and another for dishonorable use? 22 What if God, desiring to show his wrath and to make known his power, has endured with much patience vessels of wrath prepared for destruction, 23 in order to make known the riches of his glory for vessels of mercy, which he has prepared beforehand for glory—
The Holy Bible: English Standard Version (Wheaton, IL: Crossway Bibles, 2016), Ro 9:19–23.