Mom broke her hip

[Debp]

Praying for you both, Debp,xxx

Thanks.

Last night I gave mom tender small bits of chicken on top of rice. Also, mashed sweet potatoes and peas.

She only ate a little bit....and totally left the peas. I then gave her a scoop of cottage cheese since she ate so little and insisted that she eat it. She did eat that.

 

[Ritajanice]

Thanks.

Last night I gave mom tender small bits of chicken on top of rice. Also, mashed sweet potatoes and peas.

She only ate a little bit....and totally left the peas. I then gave her a scoop of cottage cheese since she ate so little and insisted that she eat it. She did eat that.

Bless her heart, she is SO Blessed to have a Daughter like you, I know you are both so bonded to each other....it’s lovely to see, by reading your posts,xxxx

Praying that she regains her strength and appetite, turns that corner soon, In Jesus Name....Amen!!

 

[Debp]

Praying that she regains her strength and appetite, turns that corner soon, In Jesus Name....Amen!!

Just wanted to let you know that mom ate well yesterday! It's actually the first time since she got home from the hospital that she ate well. So I hope and pray it will continue.

I ordered groceries yesterday and she asked for candy and ice cream. Maybe it's a turning point, hopefully, since she hadn't asked for anything since the hospital!

Also late yesterday she tried to push herself up towards the headboard...she only moved about an inch but at least she tried on her own.

I noticed one of her incisions is open about an eighth of an inch. So I am trying to disinfect it. Will get some triple antibiotic ointment as soon as possible.

Thanks for your prayers.

 

[Ritajanice]

Just wanted to let you know that mom ate well yesterday! It's actually the first time since she got home from the hospital that she ate well. So I hope and pray it will continue.

I feel so “ ELATED “ after reading this, may her strength and appetite continue to improve Lord, In Jesus Name! Amen!

I ordered groceries yesterday and she asked for candy and ice cream. Maybe it's a turning point, hopefully, since she hadn't asked for anything since the hospital!

I feel so, so happy to hear this.xxx

Also late yesterday she tried to push herself up towards the headboard...she only moved about an inch but at least she tried on her own.

Wahoo!!!...Praise God!xx

I noticed one of her incisions is open about an eighth of an inch. So I am trying to disinfect it. Will get some triple antibiotic ointment as soon as possible.

Good idea, should a professional look at it Sis.? just enquiring?xx....I know there is no one better to look after her than you!.....devoted Daughter....Love it,xxx....thinking of you too! xx ...God Bless you birth!!xx

Thanks for your prayers.

Constantly in my thoughts and prayers,xx

 

[Debp]

Good idea, should a professional look at it Sis.? j

If it gets worse I can ask the home care agency to send the nurse. But hopefully keeping it clean and getting antibiotic ointment will do the trick. It's only open a tiny bit and there is no pus.

I told mom not to scratch it. Put a bandaid on after cleaning it.

 

[Ritajanice]

If it gets worse I can ask the home care agency to send the nurse. But hopefully keeping it clean and getting antibiotic ointment will do the trick. It's only open a tiny bit and there is no pus.

I told mom not to scratch it. Put a bandaid on after cleaning it.

Yes, agreed.xxx

 

[Ritajanice]

Hi Debp, how are you both doing? xx

 

[Debp]

Hi Debp, how are you both doing? xx

Thanks for asking.

Mom is about the same.... still bed bound. I got faster changing diapers except when it's poo!

Tried to request more sessions with the OT and the PT....as they are running out now. But mom's doctor is in Poland until May 20. Told the agency, haven't heard back.

Medicare requires a doctor saying mom needs the sessions. And the sessions are totally stopped after so long.

I tried to get mom up towards the headboard the other day by sitting her on the edge of the bed and lifting her up that way....did about three quick lifts. So only got her moved about three inches. She's afraid of her butt sliding off the edge which I am aware of being a danger. (An aunt's mom broke her hip by sliding off the edge of a bed!)

Then I laid her flat on her back and worked with her body to get her more centered in the bed.

Might have to try that again today. Peter the OT has his last visit tomorrow and will pull her upwards on the bed. Minji has two more sessions.

 

[Ritajanice]

Thanks for asking.

Mom is about the same.... still bed bound. I got faster changing diapers except when it's poo!

Tried to request more sessions with the OT and the PT....as they are running out now. But mom's doctor is in Poland until May 20. Told the agency, haven't heard back.

Hopefully when mums Doctor gets back from Poland, he will give her the all clear, to get more sessions.

Medicare requires a doctor saying mom needs the sessions. And the sessions are totally stopped after so long.

All this red tape business is so annoying....I pray that Doctor gives the go ahead , when he gets back from Poland,xx

I tried to get mom up towards the headboard the other day by sitting her on the edge of the bed and lifting her up that way....did about three quick lifts. So only got her moved about three inches. She's afraid of her butt sliding off the edge which I am aware of being a danger. (An aunt's mom broke her hip by sliding off the edge of a bed!)

Then I laid her flat on her back and worked with her body to get her more centered in the bed.

Might have to try that again today. Peter the OT has his last visit tomorrow and will pull her upwards on the bed. Minji has two more sessions.

Be very careful with your back,Sis, xxx

Please send my Love and prayers to your beloved Mother,xx

 

[Debp]

Just an update on mom: She doesn't want to eat and has eaten little the last couple of days.

I will phone the home care agency and Mom's doctor tomorrow morning about that. The home care agency does do hospice care if that will be needed.

 

[Rita]

Has something happened to make her stop eating or is it something she is choosing to do , what about drinking ?
So sorry, you had tried hard to get her to have food she will eat. Xxx

 

[Ritajanice]

So sorry to hear this Debp, my thoughts and prayers are very much with you both.xxx

 

[Debp]

Has something happened to make her stop eating or is it something she is choosing to do , what about drinking ?
So sorry, you had tried hard to get her to have food she will eat. Xxx

I don't know what happened. She's drinking some but not as much.

I keep telling her she needs to eat if she wants to live... otherwise she will be going to Jesus soon. She doesn't say anything in response.

The nurse from the home care agency came Friday morning since the first round of PT and OT was finishing. I was supposed to ask the doctor for more sessions as Peter was thinking he could work with mom to walk a couple of steps this week....since she was finally standing upright with her legs.

Now I don't know what to do. I will have to ask the home care agency what they think and then talk with Mom's doctor.

Peter the PT is a great help to me in getting mom back up towards the headboard of the bed before he leaves. Also, he is strong so he really could support mom's standing up.

My cousin, Faith, in Alabama said her mom didn't want to eat and passed away in two weeks. But her mom was in a nursing home.

 

[Ritajanice]

Praying that the Lord will help you in this situation,Sis,.....it must be a difficult time for you both.xx

Just keep doing as you have always done ,walking in faith and putting your trust in Father God..

Keep us informed sweet Sister,xx

 

[ShineTheLight]

Just an update on mom: She doesn't want to eat and has eaten little the last couple of days.

Is this stubbornness? I pray that it be helped, so that she does eat.

 

[Rita]

I don't know what happened. She's drinking some but not as much.

I keep telling her she needs to eat if she wants to live... otherwise she will be going to Jesus soon. She doesn't say anything in response.

The nurse from the home care agency came Friday morning since the first round of PT and OT was finishing. I was supposed to ask the doctor for more sessions as Peter was thinking he could work with mom to walk a couple of steps this week....since she was finally standing upright with her legs.

Now I don't know what to do. I will have to ask the home care agency what they think and then talk with Mom's doctor.

Peter the PT is a great help to me in getting mom back up towards the headboard of the bed before he leaves. Also, he is strong so he really could support mom's standing up.

My cousin, Faith, in Alabama said her mom didn't want to eat and passed away in two weeks. But her mom was in a nursing home.

You know sometimes people just want to give up, it’s not always stubbornness or anything other than they are tired on the inside. I don’t think it’s a care home thing, I think it is an age thing.
In many ways we have to try, but equally accept the choice. ( And I know it’s hard when it is a loved one xxxxxxx)

 

[Nancy]

Prayers for the best outcome here Deb. Does she state that she doesn't want to live like this anymore? Or, does she still have a fighting will to live? I only say that because I know that once one gives up the will or desire to live, at least being born again; there is no stopping God's hand and that is a great thing I think. This happened to both of my parents. They were so ready.
xoxoxo Hugs

 

[Jay Ross]

Hi Debp,

When I was caring for my MIL during the lasts four or so months of her life, she had cancer of her lymph glands, and she had a treatment that extended her life by around four months.

She was wanting the extra time to put in place what she thought would be beneficial for her husband, my FIL.

During this four-month period, her blood tests began indicating that her organs were shutting down. She was not eating or drinking enough water. Four days before she passed away her daughter, my wife, though that she would be able to care for her at home but found that the demands were too much for her to cope with and so the decision was made for her to be put into hospitable. The MIL was not pleased with our decision and was heard telling her friends that she was in hospital so that the doctors could give her some injections or tables that would her to go home again. She was wanting to control her life doing the things that she always did. However, the fight within her gave up and she quietly accepted her fate and died peacefully a day or so later.

The hardest thing for the family was to release my MIL so that she could die peacefully.

Once she died the family could get on with the next stage of caring for the FIL. He lived for another four to five years after his wife died and was able to see his first linage grandchild being born.

His last Christmas we ensured that all of his family came to wish him the best, and instead of him returning home early he stayed to the end of the day and saw many of his grandchildren and his great grandchildren leave. Within a few days his well-being deteriorated, and we were not able to continue caring for him at home and subsequently we took him down to the hospitable on the coast. While he was in hospitable, he enjoyed his grandchildren and the great grandchildren visiting him and he passed away quietly a few days later.

All the family were happy to release both the MIL and the FIL so that they could die peacefully, and we were able to celebrate the lives that they had led.

This time can be a difficult time for the family as they release their loved ones to their destiny in death.

Shalom


PS: - Debp, I have posted my experience above to help you make the right decisions for your circumstance.

 

[Debp]

Is this stubbornness? I pray that it be helped, so that she does eat.

She seems to have a hard time swallowing food. I try to sit her upright on the bed as much as possible. I cut her vitamins in four parts and she swallows those with tea.

I try to give her a little milk but she will only take a couple of sips. She likes tea.

Prayers for the best outcome here Deb. Does she state that she doesn't want to live like this anymore? Or, does she still have a fighting will to live? I only say that because I know that once one gives up the will or desire to live, at least being born again; there is no stopping God's hand and that is a great thing I think. This happened to both of my parents. They were so ready.
xoxoxo Hugs

At 94 mom doesn't talk a lot about things like that. She just lays in bed with no complaints.

Even though she ate little yesterday, she seemed alert. Her blood work and her organs have always been great. It's just that these hospital stays seem to make her decline badly. (Also she wasn't eating at the hospital and on the seventh day, I had to yell that she was going to die if she didn't get food into her. Afterwards they let me order anything for her from the kitchen.)

Yesterday she ate most of her waffle and a tiny piece of bacon so I was glad about that. But for dinner, she spit out the chili and refused to eat it. I asked if she wanted two crackers with the chili....she said yes, but then she didn't eat them.

 

[amadeus]

Just an update on mom: She doesn't want to eat and has eaten little the last couple of days.

I will phone the home care agency and Mom's doctor tomorrow morning about that. The home care agency does do hospice care if that will be needed.

Praying for her and for you...