ATP said:
How do we become born again Barrd.
Wow, you don't ask much, do you? I can only tell you from my own experience.
I would say that it begins in your heart. You learn about Jesus Christ...Who He is, and what He is like. Gentle, compassionate, patient, kind, full of love...
He says "follow Me"...and I, at least, wanted nothing more than to do just that.
Oh, I gave my heart to Him more than willingly, eager to know as much about Him as my little mind could hold.
My parents weren't exactly what you'd call "fanatic", but we did belong to a tiny Episcopal church. How I loved that little church! The beauty and the simplicity of it, the stained glass windows, the cross behind the pulpit, the music...even the smell of it...all seemed to bring me close to the Lord I had fallen in love with. And back in those days, the building was open 24-7. I used to love to walk down there with my Bible and curl up in one of the pews and read, read, read.
Now, I had been baptized as an infant, of course...and, according to my Episcopal upbringing, I was "confirmed" that very same year...and it was a glorious experience.
By this time, I knew that I belonged to Him, and would from then on. I had received the Holy Spirit, and I knew that He now dwelt within me. I was His, and He was mine, and so it would always be, as long as I lived..but I came to realize that I wanted to be baptized, as Jesus had been.
But I'm guessing you are wanting to hear the Roman Road thingie....if I can remember exactly how it goes...
Let me see...realize that you are a sinner "For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God".
Check. I realized that before I was halfway through that lovely new Bible...in fact, I think I had always known it.
Next...understand the penalty for sin "The wages of sin is death".
Check. Even as a kid I realized that this was more than our physical demise. After all, my goldfish had not sinned...
Next...understand that Jesus paid your penalty and made available to you the gift of eternal life. "The gift of God is eternal life".
Check. I knew that I wanted to spend this life with Him...and if it were possible, to spend eternity with Him. He had me by my 12 year old heart.
Next...confession unto salvation. "Confess with thy mouth..."
Check. I certainly had no problem confessing with my mouth, or believing in my heart.
And finally, if I'm not mistaken, you must be baptized.
Check. Even though the old priest in that little church was Episcopalian, he understood my concerns. He called a friend of his, and the next thing I knew, I was being baptized in the Methodist church's facility. Of course, my parents knew nothing of this...they would have been outraged. But it was a precious moment to me, if only because I had obeyed the scripture.
And now, you want me to say that I have eternal security, knowing that Jesus will never leave me or forsake me.
And, you are right, so far as it goes. But it is a two-way relationship. Jesus will not leave me...but I can walk away from Him, by continuing in my sin, and refusing to repent. I can rebel against Him. I could have decided that the affair I was having was worth more to me than He is, that it was too hard to follow Him, and turned back.
Jesus would not have forsaken me...but I would have forsaken Him. And I would have lost my salvation. Of course, if I had done so, I could still repent and been welcome back into His loving arms, provided my repentance was sincere.