Actually, what he was trying to do was hint that I might have NPD since I was raised by someone with NPD. Which, funny enough, is something NPD’s will do - accuse someone else of being NPD!
If you want to find out what a narc is actually covertly doing, you just listen to what they are accusing you of. They give themselves away in that manner.
For instance, if they accuse you of say…having an affair, rest assured, they are trying to project their bad onto you.
Or if they accuse you of some nefarious thing, they gave themselves away. We’ve seen the tactic in here. Not that everyone who uses narc tactics is full blown, clinical NPD, but you’ve even noted and said - this is bizarre, you keep accusing me of what you are doing…