Well I forgive you, and it can happen to any of us. Catching ourselves is HS. I was referring to the ones who make it a habit. But, yes the way we respond is key.
However, I have no patience for those who come here purposefully to deceive and divide us . Yeah, there's that.
The secret is to catch us acting disgracefully before we hit the "Post reply" so that it does not get posted at all.
The next best thing is to be able to edit your post when you realise that you have posted a disgraceful response before any other members can reply or quote your disgraceful post. Then you might be able to claim that you did not act disgracefully in response to what another member has posted.