@VJ, we would like to speak on this, "Your husband shall rule over you".
first lets point out, shall rule "OVER" is not the same as "RULE" in submission to a husband.
please take note,"rule over" is not based on a condition of submission, but of a work of leadership by permission. the scripture never said to "rule" her, but "shall rule OVER" her. ruling over is not the same as ruling. please check that. scripture, Genesis 3:16 "Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee". see that word shall, it's subject to approval. Shall, expressing a strong assertion or intention. the assertion or intention is a work to LEAD, or the first to do. in short, take responsibility. this is in a marriage. "rule over" simply means, the first to serve. and as a wife, it is determined as stated, she is to be a HELPER. a helper helps one accomplish something, not do it for them. therefore, before a man and woman become ONE, the man get permission from the woman to take responsibility, or the work of leadership in service toward one another. this is crucial in understanding 1 Corinthians chapter 11. the very first verse set the stage of understanding. this work of responsibility (first to serve) is to first to provide, and the first to protect. see, shall rule over is by permission, not submission. this is why a man "ASK" a woman to marry him. the woman by giving her permission to become one with him, as his helper. she, by her permission, gives the rule over/leadership her to her husband, so that they may serve each other in spirit and in truth. this is crucial in understanding 1 Corinthians chapter 14, especially at verses 34 & 35. see, rulership is a two way street, to serve one another.
and here, too many christian make the error by taking a tradition of the home and trying to implement, or apply this institution as a standard of the church in submission instead of a service to one another. 1 Corinthians chapter 11 & 14 can be cleared up if one JUST understand "rule OVER" INSTEAD OF "RULE".
marriage is not for everyone, read all of Mathews chapter 19 1-12