It seems to me, if a person believes in the first one (total depravity), then he would have to believe in the rest of them. Reason being:
--if all are born into this world totally depraved, then NONE could ever come to God and be saved, therefore
--God had to unconditionally choose/elect some to be saved
--those God chose/elected then would be the only ones Christ died and shed His blood for
--they would come to God irresistibly, could not reject God's choosing of them
--those God elected, God makes sure they will persevere and be saved.
I am not a Calvinist for the reason that:
--men are NOT born totally depraved nature, which means the U and L and I and P are not Biblical and fall like dominoes.
--since men are born with ability to choose to do well or not (Genesis 4:7) men can choose to come to God.
--Christ died for all, so salvation is available to any and all who choose to come to Christ
--since men can choose to come to Christ and be saved, God does not need to force salvation upon man thru irresistible grace.
--God does not force people to be saved against their will preventing them from ever being lost.
One person sums it up this way:
"Consider the following progression of TULIP:
People are born so evil that they cannot even want to do what is right (Total Hereditary Depravity). Because we cannot even want to do good, God must override our will and force us to be saved (Irresistible Grace). Because God is forcing us to obey Him, we can do nothing to damn ourselves (Perseverance of the Saints)." -Bryan Sharp
Another puts it this way:
The fundamental premises of Calvinism may be summed up in this well-known saying of a bygone era:
- Everyone’s salvation or condemnation was determined before time began.
- Therefore, if one seeks redemption, he cannot find it.
- If he finds it, he cannot obtain it.
- If he obtains it, he cannot lose it!