Some Protestants are like that and give the rest a bad name. The others actually read their Bibles and understand that God commands us to submit to spiritual leadership, imperfect as it is. There are some, though, even right here on this forum, who are in open rebellion against God even while deceiving themselves into thinking they are doing the right thing more than the rest of us. Even when they go to church, they do so with a lot of criticism and self righteousness and they never stay long, finding it difficult to contend with all the faults they see in the pastor, the worship, and the ministries. They pick on doctrinal nuances, but the truth is, they have a rebellious spirit and won't stay in their assigned seat long enough for God to work a change in them. They're runners, running from God and running from God's holy Church and the only cure for their condition is submission, which they refuse to do.
Even though you and I know that the Protestant reformation was an act of insurrection against the Church Jesus instituted, centuries later Protestantism is no longer exactly defined by it's protest against the Catholic Church. In fact, many don't have any animosity toward Catholics at all, just disagreements in their point of view. Strictly speaking, they're more accurately called evangelical Christians rather than Protestants.
And as far as the pastors go, you're right that they drag on and on and the service becomes about them rather than about Jesus as is the case in Catholic and Orthodox services. The pastor is expected to be entertaining, engaging, and charismatic. But in their defense, they aren't the problem when it comes to churchlessness, which should be obvious. They need people to attend. The rebels I speak of are the wandering "prophets" who think God speaks to them exclusively like John, Elijah, or Samuel and they have a "word for the pastor" which usually includes a rebuke or criticism, which God mysteriously gave to them instead of telling the pastor Himself. These types are ensconced in the Old Testament, well versed in the woes and condemnations, the calls for repentance and a return to righteousness. But the demons they battle are their own.