Why is it somehow ok for people to force their kids to play sports even when they don’t want to?

[2Fragile2TakeCriticism]

Force Your Kids to Play Sports - Kevin A. Thompson

Some decisions are too important for a child to make. Good parents do not allow their children to choose if they: go to school eat sleep go to church obey While children should be allowed to make many choices, there are some decisions which are too important for them to be trusted with. Sports fall

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Force your kids to play sports, psychologist says

Dr. Jim Taylor, author of Positive Pushing: How to Raise a Successful and Happy Child, says make sure your kids enjoy the sports they're playing

www.app.com

Why do parents force their child to play a sport they are not interested in?

Answer (1 of 5): I believe there may be any number of reasons, depending on the situation. Sometimes I see a parent who is trying to encourage a child to develop an interest in a sport, because they have not been an active role model, and now it appears the child is going to be a computer spud, ...

www.quora.com

Why I Force My Kids to Play Sports

Yes, we’re those parents. My husband and I force our three daughters to play sports. But we don’t do it for the reasons you think.

www.mynourishedhome.com

https://www.reddit.com/r/Negareddit/comments/7p5rfs

Yes, Parents Should Force Kids To Play Sports

Forcing a kid to try a sport is fine, particularly if it's less forcing than persistent encouragement. But if a child tries a sport and doesn't have any fun, then parents should let it go.

www.fatherly.com

My child is too fat and does not want to go to a sports club. Should I force it?

Answer (1 of 7): Your pantry is the problem, not a lack of activity. I'm all for exercise, but people who exercise without correcting their diet seldom lose weight. It's just a fact. In many cases, exercise just makes you eat more, especially if your exercise is focused on cardio. It's a lot eas...

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I’ve recently heard articles such as these and it’s making me think “ugh why”. People somehow think it’s ok for parents to force their children to play sports when they don’t want to because they believe they’re allowing their children to lose weight and that it gives the parents the interests THEY want. For example, a dad demanded his daughter to play soccer for several hours every day so she can lose 50 pounds. It absolutely makes me sick when parents say forcing kids to play sports keeps them active and prevents them from getting sick and fat. It’s utter fat shaming.

It’s also fat shaming when people say that their child is fat because they eat too much junk food and sugar and all that garbage. They tells parents they’re bad for letting their children eat junk food and have a lot of screen time because for some stupid reason junk food equals death and screens equals brainwashed children. Then there’s the ridiculous defense saying their parents are right to force children to play sports and exercise and they shouldn’t hate them for that.

Of course we’re not supposed to hate our parents, it’s the actions they do that make us feel anger and a lack of respect towards us. I’m tired of people defending their actions that are inconsiderate towards their children and somehow make them justifiable. If people force me to do a hobby I don’t like and I protest and they reply with “but hobbies are good for you, why can’t you just do what we say and enjoy them like we’ve always wanted you to?”, they’re completely ignoring my wishes and being downright selfish. Even if soccer moms keep defending their garbage with “it’s not selfish, it’s getting your kids to get motivated”, they’re still ignorant of their actions and the effects they have on their children. Denying the fact that their acts are selfish even proves that they really ARE selfish.

In short, it’s nothing but an excuse to hide emotional abuse. Now I’ve also heard of instances of children who ARE interested in sports but their parents won’t let them participate. That itself is another example of emotional abuse. I’m definitely sure this also provides a similar consequence to children when comparing to vice versa.

I apologize if I sound like I’m complaining. I just need to get this off my chest. No advice needed. Thank you.

 

[Behold]

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Regarding Children, and others.


1.) Lack of Discipline is the art of failure.

2.) Consistency, in the right thing, is the key to correct success, or any other type.

3.) Train up a child in the way they SHOULD GO....... and when they are older, they won't depart from it.

4.) "Jesus learned obedience by the things He suffered"...

5.) "Suffered".... = doing what is right when you dont feel like it. Doing what is right, because its the right thing to do.

6.) Life is a TEST, and few pass it with a perfect score, but some pass it with a very high Grade of Character.

There are 2 kinds of people in this world.......

A.) Doer's

B.) Watchers

You dont want your child to be a watcher, so you make them DO early in life. = Because, You want them to be a Doer. So, If they are taught to be a Doer, early on, they'll always be one.

Make them finish what they start. NO quitters allowed.

Teach them to be compassionate and giving, as this is to be "God like".

Teach the Child that there is a difference between being meek and being weak.

Be a DOER of the word...of God., and not just a hearer.... = (not just a watcher).

7.) Failure is not the same thing as making the same mistake again. Failure is the art of finding the way to perfect, whatever you need to do, or want to do., or have to do.

8.) Parenting a child, is literally creating the adult's behavior.

If you have a Son, then remember : they are going to one day be someone's husband and father.....so, create him to be A GOOD Man.

If You have a Daughter, then remember that they are one day going to be someone's wife and mother.....so, create her to be A GOOD Woman.

Good = Godly MORALITY,.... + thoughtful, + helpful, + generous, + faithful, and disciplined.

= Thats on you., "Parent".
Get that right in the beginning of their life, and it'll last in them, always.

 

[2Fragile2TakeCriticism]

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Regarding Children, and others.


1.) Lack of Discipline is the art of failure.

2.) Consistency, in the right thing, is the key to correct success, or any other type.

3.) Train up a child in the way they SHOULD GO....... and when they are older, they won't depart from it.

4.) "Jesus learned obedience by the things He suffered"...

5.) "Suffered".... = doing what is right when you dont feel like it. Doing what is right, because its the right thing to do.

6.) Life is a TEST, and few pass it with a perfect score, but some pass it with a very high Grade of Character.

There are 2 kinds of people in this world.......

A.) Doer's

B.) Watchers

You dont want your child to be a watcher, so you make them DO early in life. = Because, You want them to be a Doer. So, If they are taught to be a Doer, early on, they'll always be one.

Make them finish what they start. NO quitters allowed.

Teach them to be compassionate and giving, as this is to be "God like".

Teach the Child that there is a difference between being meek and being weak.

Be a DOER of the word...of God., and not just a hearer.... = (not just a watcher).

7.) Failure is not the same thing as making the same mistake again. Failure is the art of finding the way to perfect, whatever you need to do, or want to do., or have to do.

8.) Parenting a child, is literally creating the adult's behavior.

If you have a Son, then remember : they are going to one day be someone's husband and father.....so, create him to be A GOOD Man.

If You have a Daughter, then remember that they are one day going to be someone's wife and mother.....so, create her to be A GOOD Woman.

Good = Godly MORALITY,.... + thoughtful, + helpful, + generous, + faithful, and disciplined.

= Thats on you., "Parent".
Get that right in the beginning of their life, and it'll last in them, always.

Are you saying they should go into a sport ANYWAY, because it’s God’s bidding, in other words, because God told the parents their children SHOULD be into sports whether they like it or not? When does sport and weight have to do with morality?

You might need to rethink that, because forcing someone to get into a hobby against their will is morally wrong. God would truly not like it either.

 

[Behold]

Are you saying they should go into a sport ANYWAY, because it’s God’s bidding,

Children turn into adults.

So, we have to train them so that they grow up productive, useful, and honest.

Its all about developing strong moral character in the kid.
You cant do that with a cell phone, Netflix, and no boundaries or discipline, applied.

Kids need to be put in situations that help them grow.
A cell phone helps them rot.

Give them...

sports.
Books
learning an instrument
learning languages.
learning how to cook
competition

Before Jesus was in the Ministry, he had learned how to build using wood.
That's not easy., as in those days there were no power tools, or a Truck to haul the wood back to the shop.
It was hard work for a little boy......and for a grown man.
Jesus worked with wood all day and then died nailed to some wood.

 

[I.O.U]

Are you saying they should go into a sport ANYWAY, because it’s God’s bidding, in other words, because God told the parents their children SHOULD be into sports whether they like it or not? When does sport and weight have to do with morality?

You might need to rethink that, because forcing someone to get into a hobby against their will is morally wrong. God would truly not like it either.

Forcing people to do anything, even something that is beneficial for them causes the opposite to occur in the end "With every action there is an equal and opposite reaction" My mother forced me to play the piano every afternoon, every day. So now when I look at a musical instrument and would love to learn how to use it, I don't, I can't seem to feel a passion for it. Scary thought that it just may work that way. Think of all the slack lazy people in the world today, could it be they are that way because their parents forced a lifestyle of the exact opposite on them?

 

[ButterflyJones]

Maybe the parent seeks to live vicariously through the child they force into a particular sport.

I think forcing a child to enter a sport is ludicrous and a form of abuse. If a child's heart isn't in it they'll likely not excell at that sport.

 

[Debp]

I think the child should go into a sport or hobby that he or she has an interest in.

I was never athletic but had an interest in art.

 

[Jay Ross]

Hello,

Sport involvement, particularly in team sports helps the young develop team skills for the young participants in the sport. Unfortunately, the parents on the sideline can be a problem where, in their enthusiasm for the team to win, they tend to put unrealistic expectation on the whole team there by sucking the participation enjoyment out of the sport for the young children. As a result, younger people tend to leave team sports by around the age of 13-15.

There is a whole swag of sport participation that help increase the dexterity skill of the young people in a variety of ways that is beneficial for them.

For some just spending time with their dad in his workshop helps their motor skills. Not every activity is beneficial for all young people.

But then again encouraging participation to introduce a wide spectrum of activities for the younger children to experience is also good for them.


Shalom

 

[Patrick1966]

Hello,

Sport involvement, particularly in team sports helps the young develop team skills for the young participants in the sport. Unfortunately, the parents on the sideline can be a problem where, in their enthusiasm for the team to win, they tend to put unrealistic expectation on the whole team there by sucking the participation enjoyment out of the sport for the young children. As a result, younger people tend to leave team sports by around the age of 13-15.

There is a whole swag of sport participation that help increase the dexterity skill of the young people in a variety of ways that is beneficial for them.

For some just spending time with their dad in his workshop helps their motor skills. Not every activity is beneficial for all young people.

But then again encouraging participation to introduce a wide spectrum of activities for the younger children to experience is also good for them.


Shalom

The best sports for kids are when a bunch of kids get together on their own and play for their own enjoyment. I was fortunate to grow up in the country and in a neighborhood that just happened to have a lot of boys around my age in it. We played baseball, football, and basketball all year round without an adult anywhere in sight.

 

[Matthias]

Forcing people to do anything, even something that is beneficial for them causes the opposite to occur in the end "With every action there is an equal and opposite reaction" My mother forced me to play the piano every afternoon, every day. So now when I look at a musical instrument and would love to learn how to use it, I don't, I can't seem to feel a passion for it. Scary thought that it just may work that way. Think of all the slack lazy people in the world today, could it be they are that way because their parents forced a lifestyle of the exact opposite on them?

 

[I.O.U]

It's the parents personal belief about exercise that is forced on the child. There is little or no attempt to instruct the child as in the evident why it's healthy to exercise. Just do what I believe is good for you switches the child's positive thought polarity to a negative.

 

[Matthias]

My parents allowed and encouraged me to play sports (baseball, basketball, football and Chess.) My athleticism prevented me from playing most sports for long.

To play or not to play? That is the question.

No one forced me one way or the other.

(I did have to obtain permission from my parents and the school board once in order to play in a state championship tournament that would have kept me from attending my High School Baccalaureate service - and did. It was granted.)

 

[Gardorath]

Parents may be doing this to instill discipline in their child and also to instill a love of playing sports. Perhaps parents should sometimes relax and play baccarat here or spin the slots. After that, they might not be so picky about their children.

 

[Matthias]

It's the parents personal belief about exercise that is forced on the child. There is little or no attempt to instruct the child as in the evident why it's healthy to exercise. Just do what I believe is good for you switches the child's positive thought polarity to a negative.

Why is it somehow ok for people to force their children to eat vegetables? To brush their teeth? To go to bed at a set time? To wear the clothes they are provided? To do their school homework? To do household chores? To exercise good manners? To obey the law?

Why is it somehow ok for people to parent their children?

 

[Roelyntha]

Why is it somehow ok for people to force their children to eat vegetables? To brush their teeth? To go to bed at a set time? To wear the clothes they are provided? To do their school homework? To do household chores? To exercise good manners? To obey the law?

Why is it somehow ok for people to parent their children?

It pisses me off, too. When I have kids, I'm going to be their friend, not tell them what to do and how to do it.

 

[Jay Ross]

It pisses me off, too. When I have kids, I'm going to be their friend, not tell them what to do and how to do it.

This is a recipe for disaster for your future children. Trust me, it is our example of how we conduct ourselves while parenting in front of our children that will mould and shape who they become.

Some of my children are trying really hard not to make the same mistake that they perceive that I made with them, but the reality is that the harder they try to not be like me, the more they become like me with their children.

Living the good life example for others is a lot harder to do than we think.

Shalom

 

[Wrangler]

People somehow think it’s ok for parents to force their children to play sports when they don’t want to

That’s rooted in the idea that kids are not the boss and have to do what they are told by their parents.

People somehow think it’s ok for parents to force their children to <INSERT BEST INTEREST> when they don’t want to .., it works on so many levels.

 

[MatthewG]

As long as there is no sexual abuse…

Maybe going to a ball game is not so bad.

My sister made her kids play ball, at least for a little while, or whatever.

If its sexual child abuse… call the law or tell someone! That something mom and dads should teach there children…

But some mom and dads dont… run! Get help. Some uncles may not either. Run! Get help. Check out the sex offender list in your local area and know who is around also keep your children safe.

 

[matttheavengers]

While encouraging kids to be active and try new things is cool, pushing 'em into sports they're not into doesn't really add up. Just like how our faith is about free will, letting kids explore what makes 'em happy is key. It's all about finding that balance between encouragement and letting them follow their own path.

 

[Freedm]

Force Your Kids to Play Sports - Kevin A. Thompson

Some decisions are too important for a child to make. Good parents do not allow their children to choose if they: go to school eat sleep go to church obey While children should be allowed to make many choices, there are some decisions which are too important for them to be trusted with. Sports fall

www.kevinathompson.com

Force your kids to play sports, psychologist says

Dr. Jim Taylor, author of Positive Pushing: How to Raise a Successful and Happy Child, says make sure your kids enjoy the sports they're playing

www.app.com

Why do parents force their child to play a sport they are not interested in?

Answer (1 of 5): I believe there may be any number of reasons, depending on the situation. Sometimes I see a parent who is trying to encourage a child to develop an interest in a sport, because they have not been an active role model, and now it appears the child is going to be a computer spud, ...

www.quora.com

Why I Force My Kids to Play Sports

Yes, we’re those parents. My husband and I force our three daughters to play sports. But we don’t do it for the reasons you think.

www.mynourishedhome.com

https://www.reddit.com/r/Negareddit/comments/7p5rfs

Yes, Parents Should Force Kids To Play Sports

Forcing a kid to try a sport is fine, particularly if it's less forcing than persistent encouragement. But if a child tries a sport and doesn't have any fun, then parents should let it go.

www.fatherly.com

My child is too fat and does not want to go to a sports club. Should I force it?

Answer (1 of 7): Your pantry is the problem, not a lack of activity. I'm all for exercise, but people who exercise without correcting their diet seldom lose weight. It's just a fact. In many cases, exercise just makes you eat more, especially if your exercise is focused on cardio. It's a lot eas...

www.quora.com

I’ve recently heard articles such as these and it’s making me think “ugh why”. People somehow think it’s ok for parents to force their children to play sports when they don’t want to because they believe they’re allowing their children to lose weight and that it gives the parents the interests THEY want. For example, a dad demanded his daughter to play soccer for several hours every day so she can lose 50 pounds. It absolutely makes me sick when parents say forcing kids to play sports keeps them active and prevents them from getting sick and fat. It’s utter fat shaming.

It’s also fat shaming when people say that their child is fat because they eat too much junk food and sugar and all that garbage. They tells parents they’re bad for letting their children eat junk food and have a lot of screen time because for some stupid reason junk food equals death and screens equals brainwashed children. Then there’s the ridiculous defense saying their parents are right to force children to play sports and exercise and they shouldn’t hate them for that.

Of course we’re not supposed to hate our parents, it’s the actions they do that make us feel anger and a lack of respect towards us. I’m tired of people defending their actions that are inconsiderate towards their children and somehow make them justifiable. If people force me to do a hobby I don’t like and I protest and they reply with “but hobbies are good for you, why can’t you just do what we say and enjoy them like we’ve always wanted you to?”, they’re completely ignoring my wishes and being downright selfish. Even if soccer moms keep defending their garbage with “it’s not selfish, it’s getting your kids to get motivated”, they’re still ignorant of their actions and the effects they have on their children. Denying the fact that their acts are selfish even proves that they really ARE selfish.

In short, it’s nothing but an excuse to hide emotional abuse. Now I’ve also heard of instances of children who ARE interested in sports but their parents won’t let them participate. That itself is another example of emotional abuse. I’m definitely sure this also provides a similar consequence to children when comparing to vice versa.

I apologize if I sound like I’m complaining. I just need to get this off my chest. No advice needed. Thank you.

You say "fat shaming" as though that's a bad thing. We should be ashamed of fat. That shame motivates us to get healthy, in the same way that pain motivates us to seek healing. It's a bad thing, with a good purpose.

So, when my boy was young, I put him in soccer because he liked to play soccer at school with his friends. Turns out he was a terrible soccer player, and he didn't actually want to play soccer, so I took him out. I didn't force my kids to play sports, but I don't see anything wrong with it either. It's no different than forcing your kids to brush their teeth or clean their room. Just cause they don't want to do it, doesn't mean it's not a good idea, and as parents it is our responsibility to make these decisions for our kids.

Here's another thing to consider. As I said, I never forced my kids to partake in activities, but now that my daughter is an adult she's frequently asked me "Why didn't you force me to do figure skating? Or piano? Or dancing? If you had, then I would be really good at it now.". In other words, my daughter now wishes that I had forced her when she was young, so that she could reap the benefits when she was older.