Why is it somehow ok for people to force their kids to play sports even when they don’t want to?

[Freedm]

It pisses me off, too. When I have kids, I'm going to be their friend, not tell them what to do and how to do it.

Yikes! Please don't have kids. Kids need parents, and if you're going to consciously choose to not be a parent, then you're robbing your own kids of the stable leadership they need. Kids are not adults. Don't treat them like adults.

 

[Wrangler]

Just cause they don't want to do it, doesn't mean it's not a good idea, and as parents it is our responsibility to make these decisions for our kids.

My point exactly.

That’s rooted in the idea that kids are not the boss and have to do what they are told by their parents.

People somehow think it’s ok for parents to force their children to <INSERT BEST INTEREST> when they don’t want to .., it works on so many levels.

The point of sports is to build the person. First, the body. Then, over time, the character.

It is not about how well you play the sport. It's about learning discipline. In High School, I used to run 5 miles before school. On days that I worked but did not run before school, I ran 7 miles after work.

Can one learn disciple without playing sports? Sure, what of the body? Why is our culture so intellectual that we're letting go of the foundation our life - which is physical. As Christians, we know our body is a temple of God. We shouldn't treat it like a waste container.

 

[Wrangler]

It pisses me off, too. When I have kids, I'm going to be their friend, not tell them what to do and how to do it.

THEN you are abdicating the most important responsibility that God will ever give you.

Yikes! Please don't have kids. Kids need parents, and if you're going to consciously choose to not be a parent, then you're robbing your own kids of the stable leadership they need. Kids are not adults. Don't treat them like adults.

Agreed. The 10C do not say to honor your friend.

Why honor parents? It is precisely because they cared for you enough teach you right from wrong after giving you life.

It's easy and fun to make life, "make love" as they say. It's not easy or fun to take responsibility for the moral development of an otherwise wild child until they are an adult.

This past weekend, I was blessed to hold in my arms my 18th grandchild! While visiting, her 3 yo and 6 yo older brothers played with me for hours. During that time, their parents gave them continuous doses of loving discipline.

• Not to go out with a new gift that might get lost or ruined.
• Not to climb on the changing table.
• Not to jump off the couch.
• Not to climb on the love seat back.
• Not to swing the bat when your 3 yo brother is near.
• Eat your dinner.

There was probably more that I forget or was not a witness to that day.

As the grandfather, I am no longer responsible for disciplining the next generation but am so proud of my daughter and son-in-love (that's what my church calls 'in-laws'. 'In-love' is so much more an appropriate description of the relationship.) The kids do not know better. It is hateful to "let them learn the hard way," when the reality of bad choices catches up with them. Far better to be guided by loving parents.

And one of the very best gifts any parent can give is discipline. You cannot be successful in ANY aspect of life without it. Was there conflict with me and my daughters growing up? Were there battles of will? YES. And being there, fighting those battles is HOW I SHOWED I loved them. And it has made all the difference. There respect for me is enormous because they now know as adults the importance of daily loving fatherly discipline.

 

[Michiah-Imla]

Sports is a waste of time and energy.

Damaging the body for nothing.

 

[Sister-n-Christ]

Some parents live vicariously that way.

 

[Behold]

2 types of people in this world.

Doer's and Watchers.

Leaders and followers

Confident and cowards.

So, the word says to "train up a child"".......and of course that is mainly to train them to see God, love God, and trust God.
To know He is there, to know He is on their side, and to understand all this as JESUS.

But also..

Heros are made, not just born.
Leaders are built.

So, we want confident children, and the way you do this is to build them as confident.
Children, very young are a blank slate, ready to be modeled into champions.
And that means you have to get them involved in DOING.
So, that means you place them in situations where they have to pull their weight and step up to the plate.
Being a part of a TEAM,, or having some type of weekly lessons......
Anything where they have to produce by preperation.... vs just follow from behind, hiding.

 

[Freedm]

2 types of people in this world.

Doer's and Watchers.

Leaders and followers

Confident and cowards.

So, the word says to "train up a child"".......and of course that is mainly to train them to see God, love God, and trust God.
To know He is there, to know He is on their side, and to understand all this as JESUS.

But also..

Heros are made, not just born.
Leaders are built.

So, we want confident children, and the way you do this is to build them as confident.
Children, very young are a blank slate, ready to be modeled into champions.
And that means you have to get them involved in DOING.
So, that means you place them in situations where they have to pull their weight and step up to the plate.
Being a part of a TEAM,, or having some type of weekly lessons......
Anything where they have to produce by preperation.... vs just follow from behind, hiding.

Good intentions there, but that can backfire too. If you force them to do something they don't like, you'll just make them dislike it even more. Also, if they're not good at it, it will only hurt their confidence more. I say, let them focus on the things they're good at. 1. They'll enjoy it, and 2. It will boost their confidence.

 

[marks]

I apologize if I sound like I’m complaining. I just need to get this off my chest. No advice needed. Thank you.

The reason why? The same reason parents make their children brush their teeth. Because it's good for them.

Much love!

 

[Behold]

Good intentions there, but that can backfire too. If you force them to do something they don't like, you'll just make them dislike it even more.

Young Kids are just kids, and they dont automatically know what they like or dislike.
They learn this... as they go.

Most Kids will be a bit reticent to try anything they've never tried......but its in the trying that they discover themselves, their capacity for growth.
And in this they become.

The word of God says the parent is to train the child.
You train a child best... by getting them involved, as that is discipline.
They learn in the failing and in the falling that they don't like it, and so, they overcome, and overcome, and that is the most important discipline to learn.
Learning not to quit, has to be learned, and if you dont learn this then your life is going to suffer for it.
So, the parent is in charge of this, and if they fail the child then they've ruined the child.
A ruined child is a badly trained child, exactly like one who isn't, and they both grow up, .. with their training........one way or the other.