incidentally Jim B., the Lord currently has me in prophecy and I ran across a similar situation to yours that was in the early church. Jesus said to the church in Thyatira:It's not my job to convince you of the truth in scripture - that is up to you. It's also not my job to judge you - Jesus will do that if you choose to follow the ways of evil.
Read my previous post. I WILL NOT GO INTO DETAIL ABOUT SEXUAL IMMORALITY. Why are you trying to convince me to do so? Do you have a need to see sexual matters spelled out?
You are wasting your time if you think I will listen to your words over Scripture. The word of God is not difficult to follow if you read a good translation.
Anyone looking for loopholes in scripture to justify their non-biblical behavior, is not a true believer in Jesus.
Revelation 2:20-22 - Nevertheless, I have this against you: You tolerate that woman Jezebel, who calls herself a prophet. By her teaching she misleads my servants into sexual immorality and the eating of foods sacrificed to idols. I have given her time to repent of her immorality, but she is unwilling. So I will cast her on a bed of suffering, and I will make those who commit adultery with her suffer intensely, unless they repent of her ways.
If you are not worshiping Jesus and following his words you are worshiping something else and that something else is called an idol. It there is something in our lives that replaces Jesus, be it money, sexual escapades, or something else, we are worshiping an idol. We all know what the definition of sexual immorality is because the Holy Spirit is in us. In the past, I fudged around with the requirements of scripture to allow me to sin as most of us do. A preacher or teacher in a church doing this is a false teacher and if you are listening to these words you are attending a false and corrupt church. Prophecy tells us that worship is to be about only Jesus and nothing else and if we focus on Jesus we will find eternal peace. If we ignore the word of God or replace it with words from others we will find eternal death and destruction.