Qualifications for marrying/doing funerals

[Mayflower]

My husband blew my mind yesterday when he asked me what I thought of him getting ordained just to do marriage ceremonies and funerals. Would this be considered as pastoral? I want to support him, but I know he would be held to a higher standard/accountability by God. I am unsure what to advise him to do. I believe I should pray and support him. But I was asking God to help me even see where his walk with God is. And then he comes to me about this. I think ministry is great. It is a high calling.

 

[101G]

My husband blew my mind yesterday when he asked me what I thought of him getting ordained just to do marriage ceremonies and funerals. Would this be considered as pastoral? I want to support him, but I know he would be held to a higher standard/accountability by God. I am unsure what to advise him to do. I believe I should pray and support him. But I was asking God to help me even see where his walk with God is. And then he comes to me about this. I think ministry is great. It is a high calling.

any work of the Lord to help or asst people is a good work. now here's the scripture, 1 Corinthians 12:28 "And God hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers, after that miracles, then gifts of healings, helps, governments, diversities of tongues".
it's a gift as the afore and after mention.

so your husband was correct in asking you first. it's you two to make that decision. and if you two decide, then go to your general overseer for gudiance on the matter. but as you say pray about it both of you.

may God give you and your husband the best blessing if you two decide, and with the church blessing, a full ministery of work. will be praying for your family and your church family.

PS the work of the Lord is a good thing.

PICJAG.

 

[bbyrd009]

Jesus already
Be sure he signs a 501c3 too i guess huh. And make sure he follows them wedding instructions in the Bible too right? Wanna go over them together? Sweetie when you have sex with someone, you just married them ok, and everything else is men doing what men do, wadr. Now go and do what you like, which is what you're going to do anyway i guess right. There is no sin in that, but be prepared for the consequences, ok?

 

[bbyrd009]

ps the quals for doing funerals are let the dead bury the dead

 

[Mayflower]

any work of the Lord to help or asst people is a good work. now here's the scripture, 1 Corinthians 12:28 "And God hath set some in the church, first apostles, secondarily prophets, thirdly teachers, after that miracles, then gifts of healings, helps, governments, diversities of tongues".
it's a gift as the afore and after mention.

so your husband was correct in asking you first. it's you two to make that decision. and if you two decide, then go to your general overseer for gudiance on the matter. but as you say pray about it both of you.

may God give you and your husband the best blessing if you two decide, and with the church blessing, a full ministery of work. will be praying for your family and your church family.

PS the work of the Lord is a good thing.

PICJAG.

I think my big concern is when I asked if he would marry a homosexual couple, he said he didn't know, what would I do. I told him I felt it was a sin in God's eyes. He says he doesnt understand what a tithe is still...and doesnt feel comfortable just going to someone and openly sharing their faith unless they come to Him. I don't ever see him pray or eager to share what God is showing him in His Word. I was even questioning if he was a believer for awhile. If I thought I knew when I married and he is not. He goes to church, but isnt even going right now, because I am trying another and he doesnt feel comfortable. So I am just a bit unsure. It is a good work. But I think as his wife my job is to support him and trust God He knows his motives and where he is in his walk. And perhaps this would help him grow in faith.

I have wanted to be ordained in children's ministry for several years. My pastor said I could, but they never did. I just thought perhaps there are areas in my spiritual walk I needed to grow in and didnt push it. I still have that burning desire more for an anointing in it. I don't know what ordination does. I just know it is a big decision. I just was shocked when my husband came to me. Because I prayed, "God, he doesnt have to be an ordained minister or anything, but please show me where my husband's walk with You is." God has a sense of humor. :)

 

[Pearl]

My husband blew my mind yesterday when he asked me what I thought of him getting ordained just to do marriage ceremonies and funerals. Would this be considered as pastoral? I want to support him, but I know he would be held to a higher standard/accountability by God. I am unsure what to advise him to do. I believe I should pray and support him. But I was asking God to help me even see where his walk with God is. And then he comes to me about this. I think ministry is great. It is a high calling.

If he feels God is calling him to do this then he must go with the flow of the Holy Spirit. Life for both of you will probably change but God is a provider and will give you and your husband all you need to succeed in this new venture. As for what he may be called upon to do in the future he must be guided by God and not let negative thoughts cloud the issue.

 

[Helen]

My husband blew my mind yesterday when he asked me what I thought of him getting ordained just to do marriage ceremonies and funerals. Would this be considered as pastoral? I want to support him, but I know he would be held to a higher standard/accountability by God. I am unsure what to advise him to do. I believe I should pray and support him. But I was asking God to help me even see where his walk with God is. And then he comes to me about this. I think ministry is great. It is a high calling.

In this day and age..you can buy a licence to marry and bury over the internet!!!

And the answer from me...is a big NO...having a licence does not make a person a Pastor!

It is only God who can anoint anyone with that calling and ministry.

Even thought there are thousands of 'self appointed' pastors ( as would be your husband) out there , calling themselves " Pastors".

 

[Helen]

I think my big concern is when I asked if he would marry a homosexual couple, he said he didn't know, what would I do. I told him I felt it was a sin in God's eyes. He says he doesnt understand what a tithe is still...and doesnt feel comfortable just going to someone and openly sharing their faith unless they come to Him. I don't ever see him pray or eager to share what God is showing him in His Word. I was even questioning if he was a believer for awhile

Come on Mayflower...
Read what I quoted of your post over again ...

...now does that sound like a 'man of God' ,one who is called by God, and could lead a seeker into the faith ? He would do more harm than good.

Really? I think that you already know your answer.

 

[Stranger]

My husband blew my mind yesterday when he asked me what I thought of him getting ordained just to do marriage ceremonies and funerals. Would this be considered as pastoral? I want to support him, but I know he would be held to a higher standard/accountability by God. I am unsure what to advise him to do. I believe I should pray and support him. But I was asking God to help me even see where his walk with God is. And then he comes to me about this. I think ministry is great. It is a high calling.

I agree with all that ByGrace has said. And all that bbyrd said, you can flush down the toilet.

Stranger

 

[Mayflower]

If he feels God is calling him to do this then he must go with the flow of the Holy Spirit. Life for both of you will probably change but God is a provider and will give you and your husband all you need to succeed in this new venture. As for what he may be called upon to do in the future he must be guided by God and not let negative thoughts cloud the issue.

I dont know if he is feeling called or what. He said a friend told him about it. I said I didnt feel comfortable accepting money ministering, so he said I could take it for the offering plate. So it must be genuine. It is a new layer of trust for me with his spiritual walk with God. I think this is good. It is what I have prayed for. :)

 

[Stranger]

I dont know if he is feelingg called or what. He saix a friend told him about it. I said I didnt feel comfortable accepting money ministering, so he said I could take it for the offering plate. So it must be genuine. It is a new layer of trust for me with his spiritual walk with God. I think this is good. It is what I have prayed for. :)

You say, 'it must be genuine'. What does your pastor and church say?

Stranger

 

[Mayflower]

In this day and age..you can buy a licence to marry and bury over the internet!!!

And the answer from me...is a big NO...having a licence does not make a person a Pastor!

It is only God who can anoint anyone with that calling and ministry.

Even thought there are thousands of 'self appointed' pastors ( as would be your husband) out there , calling themselves " Pastors".

I agree. And that was my encouragement to him. I told him it shouldnt be treated like any other job. He really listens to me and doesn't do anything I am not comfortable with. So maybe I can guide my husband and encourage him in the right way to glorify God through this. I think my over thinking brain is how strong does his walk need to be with God that comes with this ministry. How strong does mine need to be? Lol. Maybe this is a good start, because I really feel called into children's ministry. Go into this together....

 

[Mayflower]

I praise God in this though, because I wasnt even sure if my husband was a true believer. But he has a very loving compassionate heart that only Christ can give. He just doesnt talk much at all.

 

[Mayflower]

Come on Mayflower...
Read what I quoted of your post over again ...

...now does that sound like a 'man of God' ,one who is called by God, and could lead a seeker into the faith ? He would do more harm than good.

Really? I think that you already know your answer.

But the Lord said to Samuel, “Do not look at his appearance or at the height of his stature, because I have rejected him; for God sees not as man sees, for man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.”
1 SAMUEL 16:7 NASB

I cannot judge his heart. I see that now. If my husband wants to do this, I will support him and pray for him. Because no. Man cannot, but God can. And God can also change hearts.

If anything this has shown me where I need to improve as his wife. I can be honest with him in areas I believe he needs to grow in and still support him in the Lord's work. You tell my husband he can't do something, he will do it to prove you wrong. And it would be my greatest desire to see my husband in ministry serving God and growing in his faith.

 

[Mayflower]

You say, 'it must be genuine'. What does your pastor and church say?

Stranger

He will ask. He said if they don't he could do it online. I will encourage him to heed good advice.

 

[Mayflower]

I agree with all that ByGrace has said. And all that bbyrd said, you can flush down the toilet.

Stranger

 

[Mayflower]

Jesus already
Be sure he signs a 501c3 too i guess huh. And make sure he follows them wedding instructions in the Bible too right? Wanna go over them together? Sweetie when you have sex with someone, you just married them ok, and everything else is men doing what men do, wadr. Now go and do what you like, which is what you're going to do anyway i guess right. There is no sin in that, but be prepared for the consequences, ok?

I wasnt sure how to respond to this, because of the satire. If you just said the last couple lines, I would have understood your point faster. My husband will do what he likes. I'm unsure what the consequences would be. Good or bad.

 

[Windmill Charge]

My husband blew my mind yesterday when he asked me what I thought of him getting ordained just to do marriage ceremonies and funerals. Would this be considered as pastoral? I want to support him, but I know he would be held to a higher standard/accountability by God. I am unsure what to advise him to do. I believe I should pray and support him. But I was asking God to help me even see where his walk with God is. And then he comes to me about this. I think ministry is great. It is a high calling.

You also said."I think my big concern is when I asked if he would marry a homosexual couple, he said he didn't know, what would I do. I told him I felt it was a sin in God's eyes. He says he doesnt understand what a tithe is still...and doesnt feel comfortable just going to someone and openly sharing their faith unless they come to Him. I don't ever see him pray or eager to share what God is showing him in His Word. I was even questioning if he was a believer for awhile.?"

A simple answer would be to say don't even think about it.

He might be caring and compasionate, but can he handle the problems of performing these services.
As already mentioned how would he deal with a request to marry a homosexul couple?
He is asked to bury someone. What is he going to say about this dead person, will he assume they were a Christian or will he say words that enable a piece of meat to be put in the ground.
How will he councel parents whose child has died?
Has hge the maturity as a Christian to talk to non christians about Jesus?
What sort of sermon would he give?

Suggest in stead thast he starts attending church every sunday and that he seeks to volunterr to help whereever needed.

 

[bbyrd009]

I wasnt sure how to respond to this, because of the satire. If you just said the last couple lines, I would have understood your point faster. My husband will do what he likes. I'm unsure what the consequences would be. Good or bad.

Ah, the top part wasn't for you anyway, that was for ol' legion slaughtering the Bible lol. Might be just the thing for your husband to do too, dunno. Lots of Ordained ppl serving God just fine i guess.

 

[bbyrd009]

Come on Mayflower...
Read what I quoted of your post over again ...

...now does that sound like a 'man of God' ,one who is called by God, and could lead a seeker into the faith ? He would do more harm than good.

Really? I think that you already know your answer.

I dunno, he just wants to do certificated weddings and funerals, and by "share his faith" you kinda mean "proselytize" anyway, right? "Recruit someone into my beliefs?" Might rather have him as a pastor than many who go there for the glory/respect i guess?

If mayflower married him he's prolly a good hearted guy imo, might even give some honest replies or even gasp say he doesn't know every now and then? Wouldn't that be refreshing!