They, our parents, chastened us according to what they thought, but God chastens us "for our good". His chastening is effective, afterward come the peaceable fruits of righteousness.But just as disobedient children are not in fellowship with their parents until they (parents & children) deal with their disobedience, so it is with God and His children.
Even if parents act that way or worse, God's ways are higher.
God does not withdraw Himself because of my bad behavior, because my reconciliation is not based on my behavior, whether good or bad. It's based in Jesus, and Jesus never changes.
Maybe I won't be having as good a time in life - chastening is not joyful but is grievous - even in the grief is still joy, because we find our Maker there, and learn to love Him there. As we learn to trust Him even when such things happen that are meant to afflict us.
That God chastens us, that's His personal hand in our lives, active in a very visible way, that's the point! And this in no wise changes His promise, I will NEVER leave you nor forsake you.
Even while you are actively sinning? Even when you are later in denial? Even when you start to justify yourself? (these are meant generally) Even before you've confessed and repented?
This comes down to a very black and white point to me. We are reconciled based on Jesus' righteousness, not our own. I don't go around labeling things as heresy, but to me, this is the one thing, to say that we add our own righteousness onto Jesus' righteousness, in order to "stay in God's good graces", or something like that. I'm not meaning to put words in your mouth, just discuss the point.
Our reconciliation is based in Jesus and not me. He removed my sin, and gave me His righteousness. I'm reconciled to God, united to Him by His Spirit, recipient of His promise, I will NEVER leave you, nor forsake you.
In faith I believe these things to be true, I accept that these truths define reality. So that's the way things are. And I never fail to find He is present with me, regardless of any other considerations. Of course, it's the realization of His presence and His love that breaks every chain!
Much love!