I disagree with your disagreement...KCKID said:With all due respect ...I disagree. If someone divorces and remarries and is accepted into membership by the Church then so too should a homosexual, no ifs, ands or buts.
The comparison between divorce in the church and homosexuals in the Church is a difficult one...for all the different reasons I listed above.
To make things more visible, you need to look at the heart. Of the matter and of people.
The person who fronts up to the Church committee and tells them that he see no reason to stop stealing...that stealing is not wrong at all, in fact they must not only decree that stealing is okay, but that they make him a member of a Church...a Church that follows someone who says stealing is wrong.
An honest, repentant, Spirit indwelt Christian who has made a mistake...sinned even, and had their life broken by it (and that is how sin effects us), but in the grace of God have moved on, is NOT THE SAME as someone who is demanding that their sin be made right in the sight of God. That we pretend that God says that it's just fine for them to continue on in something he says is a sin...unrepentant, unceasing. It is not the same...and we can tell by the heart. One is broken, the other is indignant.
Exactly. That is my point. If a homosexual came into a church and said "I have been living in a homosexual relationship, but recognise that it's sinful...I want to be a Christian and repent and live a life for Christ"...and then they stopped living in a homosexual relationship....indeed did not intend to engage in homosexual relations, then of course they would be welcome into the membership, with all the rest of the "ex" sinners. (I say "ex" that way because none of us are perfect...we all stumble and fall, sometimes back into old sin, sometimes into new sin.) The point being that the person does not rock up to church and say "I wish to love and follow Jesus...except that part where he said homosexuality (or whatever) is a sin and to repent and stop. I don't think Jesus knew what he was talking about. So I'm going to ignore that bit, but demand that you accept me...him too...exactly as I am and in the relationship I'm in. God has no business in whom I'm having sex with."KCKID said:As for someone 'living in sin' before repentence, they would still be 'living in sin' after repentence unless the situation is changed.
This just cannot work. Now...before I go on, I will say that it will always be better, more faithful, more biblical, more godly, to stay with your spouse, whom you have a covenant before God with. Everything should be done to make this happen. But as I mentioned before sometimes NOTHING can be done. I know of many examples where one side systematically abused (in different ways, but abuse non the less) the other, and refused, point blank to see what they were doing, admit to it, or entertain the idea that they were sinning and needed to repent, turn and reconcile with their spouse. You say that homosexuals should be allowed in Church because God's down with anything that's "love"....or some such thing....and yet you want to suggest that God demands that an abused spouse must live with that forever, amen? You miss the point where God says homosexuality is a sin....and so is abuse. The moment that abusive spouse put themselves and their wants, feelings and needs above their other, they have broken the marriage covenant where they promised before God to love their wife as the Church...laying down their lives for her. So clearly there is biblical grounds for divorce...and it's not just a simple matter of "he smacked her around"....abuse comes in many forms. Sometimes it's not abuse outright but persistent sin. It may even be on both sides. It may be that neither one realise that repentance and forgiveness is needed for reconciliation until divorce is between them, and then it may be too late...to much hurt is there and one or both side cannot trust. This is not good or godly, but unless both are willing to repent and reconcile, it won't happen. There are also situations where one side just leaves...they run off with another person, they leave behind the responsibility. It happens. So in many, many cases a person is left bereft of a spouse, and in time they find both love and commitment again. In such cases the bible gives us an idea how to respond:KCKID said:Annulment of such a marriage and a vow of life-long celibacy or reconciliation with the former spouse would be the actual evidence of repentence. I realize that this is not a practical solution, I quickly add, and I'm not personally suggesting that anyone do this. But then, neither am I against homosexuals in the Church. Anyway, the 'divorce/remarrieds' situation has become very problematic for the Church. To insist on annulment for unbiblical marriages would result in huge membership loss as well as heartache for many. Since the Church cannot afford this it therefore tends to sweep divorce/remarriage under the carpet in the hope that no one will question it.
But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace. (1 Corinthians 7:15 ESV)
As far as your idea to "annul" the 'new' marriage to go back to being single or reconcile with a spouse...you are actually justify one sin, to 'fix' another. If they have "cleaved" to another person in front of God and become one flesh with them, to leave them would to be committing 'divorce' all over again, forsaking their new vows. As we know, in God's grace we don't hold to "two wrongs make a right"...we don't even hold to "fix your own messes"....no...we hold to the fact that despite our less than perfect natures, despite our inevitable stuff ups, Jesus has paid our price and we must go forward, repenting as we go, holding onto his love and walking in his nature.