One can only imagine what you are all going through bro. Mel. Satan is working overtime to diminish our faith.
1 Peter 5:10
"But the God of all grace, who hath called us unto his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after that ye have suffered a while, make you perfect, stablish, strengthen, settle you."
Yes, this "a while" can seem forever brother yet, His hand WILL move in His time. I hate that you are in this situation for so long brother, and I so want to ask God if He would hurry up, lol...but, then it would NOT be perfect.
We love and pray for you. Find a quiet place to be alone with Him as often as you can bro.
Much love and prayers.