Premarital sex, resulted in a life handed over to the cruel one (Proverbs 5:9) - now I can't escape? (help?)

[Gottservant]

I have come to realise, that part of what God expects, is for me to bring this person to salvation.

There is some comfort in that.

 

[Jay Ross]

@Gottservant

You are not the first "Christian" who has had sex before marriage. The pre-marital sex was a sign that you had already turned away from God. I know because I have seen the same signs of having turned away from God.

If you will humble yourself and confess your sin of turning away from God, then He will heal your life/land.

Now, concerning your "partner" you can ask God to include her among those Whom He is drawing to Himself. It is just a simple prayer on your part, but it is a prayer that requires much faith on your part. You only need to pray this prayer once, but you can follow this prayer up with Praise and worship on your part that God has heard your prayer and is working towards the outcome of where your partner will be drawn into God's loving embrace and salvation. This Salvation work is God's to perform, although you may be asked to play some part in the drawing of your partner to God.

You may need to pray that God will increase your patience as you wait for your partner's salvation.

When her salvation comes you can then both celebrate together in what God has done in her life.

What you need to do until then is to maintain your relationship with God and to walk in his ways every day as you live out your life for Him

Shalom

 

[Gottservant]

I need to point all my lovers to God, that is so true!

 

[Gottservant]

It's not the Devil's problem, if you are already snared by something else he has done.

When you are in union with someone, you share your chains - the Devil will condemn both of you together.

 

[Toro55]

Like many things in life once you cross the line its easier and easier every-time to cross it again.You loose your innocents to that sin and its easier to commit.Like all sins it gets easier the more you commit it best not to cross certain lines in life.Drugs sex murder you name it.It destroys your morality over time.Confess it as a sin to God and repent its the only path stop immediately or speak to a professional to find out why you feel the way you do.Live in the spirit not the flesh.This is a battle you keep loosing in your mind its where we fight against sin it starts in the mind first and comes out of you it can be stopped you need to throw those thoughts out until they don't come anymore. Yes it will be a battle you chose to cross the line and a price has to be paid.

 

[Gottservant]

The Devil has control of my past faith. The Devil adds frustration to frustration. I keep trying to be strong in my own strength.

 

[BlueNightingale]

Hi there,

So to be frank, I had pre-marital sex and developed a sexual dysfunction (constant desire). My relationship with the person in question, is nowhere. I now don't trust myself and feel very weak about things I should be strong about (the importance of a healthy relationship, God having part of that relationship, taking up my cross to defend that relationship). It is the Devil's doing, but sometimes (at least without talking about it) he seems to get every dart he wants to pierce my armour. I even learned to stay pure, since having that relationship, but I seem to struggle at both ends of the candle.

I don't know what you can do, what you can pray - but I did ask for prayer at a Church once and it seemed to help (just not completely, being on its own). Have you ever felt stuck, and the anxiety of being stuck just takes over? That's what it is like for me!

We'll laugh about it one day, but please - in the meantime - pray!

Love,
C

Are you planning on getting married?

People will disagree with me, I know. This has been taught in the churches to prevent issues.

1 Corinthians 7:36

If anyone is worried that he might not be acting honorably toward the virgin he is engaged to, and if his passions are too strong and he feels he ought to marry, he should do as he wants. He is not sinning. They should get married.


In my opinion, the verse isn't declaring marriage being a sin. It wouldn't be an act that would be dishonorable.


I read it as he is not sinning, but they need to get married.

 

[amigo de christo]

I know.
I am not alone brother. Only in the world. Not in my spirit.
Jesus is my only friend. He is my treasure and my daily bread.
He is with me all the time.
It's only times like these I feel alone because my focus is on the flesh and on the world around me instead of where it should be.

That's why I am always here. These are my friends that I have in this world.
And they help me, like you are helping me.
And it is much appreciated.

:)
Hugs

Did pa go home ziggy or is he still here . March on in the LORD my friend .

 

[Ziggy]

Did pa go home ziggy or is he still here . March on in the LORD my friend .

Still taking care of Dad.He is doing well. Turned 90 on Feb 1st. I'm getting older though and slowing down a bit. Seems everything hurts lately and lots of fatigue. Spring is here and the days are brighter and warmer. I'll be bringing him out on the porch probably next month to soak up some Vitamin D.
Taking it one day at a time friend. Watching the clown world go round and round,lol.
Hugs

 

[shepherdsword]

I think part of the problem, is that God won't let me give up on my partner. As it says in the Old Testament "Do not deal treacherously, with the wife of your youth". It's incumbent on me, to see the relationship through.

Is she your actual wife? If so, read below..and if not read below:

Heb 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

 

[amigo de christo]

Still taking care of Dad.He is doing well. Turned 90 on Feb 1st. I'm getting older though and slowing down a bit. Seems everything hurts lately and lots of fatigue. Spring is here and the days are brighter and warmer. I'll be bringing him out on the porch probably next month to soak up some Vitamin D.
Taking it one day at a time friend. Watching the clown world go round and round,lol.
Hugs

Ziggy you still a youngster at sixty . To the trenches for the hour is late and grows only later by the hour .

 

[Ziggy]

Ziggy you still a youngster at sixty . To the trenches for the hour is late and grows only later by the hour .

I'm living in a 2020 Replay. LOL
De Ja Vu anyone?
You know it was the riots that brought me here in the fall of 2020. After watching 120 days and nights of ACAB and No Justice,No Peace,
I found my way here for solace.And find it I did. In all of you.

We're going through mini-color revolutions. I think we've had at least 3 so far. First it was the white supremists and the nazi's. Then it was people of color. Then it was other peoples conflicts disturbing our own country,Russia/Ukraine and Israel/Palestine.
Now it's illegal immigration.

Made me think of that woman in labour. Time is short.
Much Love
Hugs

 

[Gottservant]

Something I learned through this whole fornication thing - which may help married couples too - is that your partner only has greater say (authority, power) if they are going slower than you. Rushing to power is not justifiable in a mutual relationship.

 

[Gottservant]

I realised I needed to learn to grieve, over the relationship.

 

[Gottservant]

The cruel thing is, I think I have discovered that 'no relationship is forever'. That is "no relationship [on its own] is forever."

Shed a tear for me - if you're not already suffering as I was!

 

[Wick Stick]

Hi there,

So to be frank, I had pre-marital sex and developed a sexual dysfunction (constant desire). My relationship with the person in question, is nowhere. I now don't trust myself and feel very weak about things I should be strong about (the importance of a healthy relationship, God having part of that relationship, taking up my cross to defend that relationship). It is the Devil's doing, but sometimes (at least without talking about it) he seems to get every dart he wants to pierce my armour. I even learned to stay pure, since having that relationship, but I seem to struggle at both ends of the candle.

I don't know what you can do, what you can pray - but I did ask for prayer at a Church once and it seemed to help (just not completely, being on its own). Have you ever felt stuck, and the anxiety of being stuck just takes over? That's what it is like for me!

We'll laugh about it one day, but please - in the meantime - pray!

Love,
C

As I see it, Biblically, coitus is the confirmation of a marriage covenant.

But, the culture of the day doesn't see it that way. IDK how one reconciles the two.

 

[Gottservant]

It turns out, that a big reason for my suffering in this relationship, is that there was an anti-Christ getting between us.

I feel much more at peace now (trusting in Jesus).

 

[Gottservant]

After much struggle and a lot of pain, God finally took the relationship from me - "It has served its purpose," He said.

Thanks for all your support.

 

[Gottservant]

I have continued to have peace about this relationship, after God taking it from me.

The wounds that were inflicted, by my partner's worldliness, have started to heal.

Don't focus on the flesh, focus on where the flesh is going: the Cross!