If it were just matters of cleanliness I don't think I'd care, but it's actually a sadistic attempt to create a world of masters and slaves; one having little to nothing to do with anything resembling decency.
I suppose I'll post where things are eventually headed for the sake of giving a clearer picture of where it will end, at least for those who refuse to receive the Lord Jesus Christ, anyway.
You’re right it’s not about cleanliness. It
is about control. It’s easier to see for someone who has had close dealings with an extremely narcissistic person they grew up with. If they happened to ALSO be the narcissists scapegoat, they can, not certainly will but CAN, come to see it clearly in the macro by finally seeing it clearly in the micro of their own upbringing. They can have that aha moment where they see it’s like what was done to them growing up but just on a larger scale.
I don’t know if someone who wasn’t the scapegoat will ever be able to see it. The one who played the Golden Child role can’t seem to see it. They remain bound in it from my own observations. I just don’t think they can see it. Although God can do anything.
So when you see the “rules for everyone else but not for me” thing, you know it’s based on whims. Not thought out, but whims based on someone’s current emotions and fears and trying to alleviate their fears by heavily controlling everyone around them. It’s not thought out (it’s emotional whims) and that’s why it makes no sense and changes from day to day. You know it’s narcissism if you lived it. You see the extreme anger you were stuck in all your life, even after you got free of it, that you never understood about yourself until you
did one day understand where your anger problem came from.
You can see, by examining your own childhood and yourself, that trying to control every word from your mouth is just being played out on a larger scale. Even yesterday, my narcissist made an attempt at insisting I use a different word than I had used. In the macro, with people given more power than my narc, it’s the same thing. Trying to control even the words that come from your very mouth. It always progresses into more and more craziness, what words you must use and not use.
Those were just two examples. I could give dozens.
The harder thing is coming to the realization and acceptance that you’re seeing satans reflection. You don’t want to admit that about a narc in your life, a parent, sibling, grandparent, significant other. But once you get there, you can see what you’re dealing with in the macro, the larger world, because you first understood it in the micro of your upbringing.
I think if everyone studied about narcissism, even for just an afternoon, a lot of them could begin to grasp it on the larger scale. Like…when you read how the person who ISNT the narcissist begins to wonder if maybe THEY are the narcissist, you say, oh…yes, that’s what is happening on a larger scale than my childhood - men being made to feel guilty and appearing to themselves like
they are the ones who have acted evil. (A narc will not ever and can not ever wonder if THEY might be the narc.)
I can even see - well, never mind, two examples is enough. You can see the group of scapegoats anger and the group of golden children who can do no wrong’s blindness
in the macro. You can also see the muddled confusion of sometimes making the golden child the scapegoat to maintain enough confusion so that the “game” won’t be seen. It’s a game of control while simultaneously keeping everyone off balance so they won’t see it.