I am not totally sure where I sit with the role of women - I just cannot stand the arrogence and control that some men advocate over women. Jesus clearly used women and wasn't afraid to go against the grain and culture at the time. I have come under the teaching of women preaching and clearly been edified, but then I am not a man, and I don't believe there are any scriptures that say women cannot teach women. I have never been part of church with a female pastor, but have been part of one with women leaders- there always seemed to be mutual respect within the church for those in the role.
If, however you were in a church fellowship where men did not have that mutual respect, then I can see it would create problems.
I have always considered the cultural relevance with Pauls words, but it's clear that some here do not agree with that. This is always going to be a contentious issue - and one that you will never get total agreement on.
Rita