There are many gifts within the Church, as mentioned above. The question that comes to my mind, is "How does God require a person to deliver the various gifts that he bestows upon us/them to another?"
I was in a prayer meeting and a visiting preacher's companion came to the church's weekly prayer meeting desiring a "word from the Lord for Her," and I happened to become paired up with her, but I did not receive a word from God just for her and so I said to her that God was not giving me anything to say to her. She became very upset because she had a sense that God had a word for her and I ended up in trouble for not even giving a a word of encouragement from God to her. It had not been my place to give her any words from God, but to the prayer group, I was the bad person for not praying for her as she wanted.
Another time while on a short term mission trip, we were taken by a pastor to one of his "Home Churches," i.e. a weekly bible study group in this case, and when we arrived he asked the group, if we had a word from the Lord. The group looked at each other and we slowly shook our heads, so he went off teaching and teaching within the local language, and when we began to get words from the Lord, for the group, he ignored us and so we were not able to deliver any words to that group.
The next day, we were with another pastor from a very different church, and we attended two house groups within his church and both times, we were able to give words from the Lord, as and when we received those words. The first group was meeting within the temple area of the city where there was many idol makers and we all sensed the oppression in that place and prayed accordingly. In the second house meeting that day, words of knowledge, healing and prophecy flowed freely. Twenty years later, the second house church, has grown into a church that is still expanding. It became a church of prayer, and is in its third church building where it now meets in line with the prophetic words that were spoken over that home group. Sadly, twenty years later, the members of the first home group have had a falling out and are no longer an active part of the pastor's church network.
What I have found with the gifting that I have is that I manifest the gifts of the spirit in a manner that can be confusing to the people around me. I was in a teaching season on the developing of the gifts of the spirit. One of the exercises that the group was given was to sit in a circle and to prayerfully pray for words of knowledge and signs for one member of the group. Initially I was siting on the other side of the circle and I was not receiving anything for the person. After five to ten minutes, the group was asked to rearrange where we were siting and I ended up siting next to the person who we are praying for. Suddenly I was crying for that person, but the group facilitator turned the focus from the initial person on to me because I was crying tears from the Lord for that person when I was siting next to him. The group did not get anything from the Lord while the focus was on me, but the facilitator felt that I was the one in need.
People crying when God is working in their lives, either for healing or as a means for God to minister through that person is very confusing for people as it does not conform with the expected norms.
Another time, I was attending an AOG impartation meeting while away on company business, and was partnered with a younger women to pray for another older woman an impartation for her. I was her catcher. When the woman would not fall down on the floor as was the expectation in the impartation meeting, I had to intervene and quietly suggest that the woman being prayed for was actually soaring with God like an eagle in the spirit and that God was actually bringing a healing or blessing for her. It was not something that as prayers for her that we needed to know. When the young woman stopped trying to force the older woman down to the floor, but instead allowed her to soar in the spirit a difference came for the group. This comes with understanding.
These have been a few of my experiences that I can share.