The morality of kinks and does lust apply only to people.

[DanielG22]

So, I have been researching my issues and personal struggles and there has been an issue that is not specific to me but niche enough for there not to be a common answer to it. I've researched and the common consensus on kinks is that if it's with your spouse and you agree it's generally fine, for those who are not married it's tricky but so long as you don't lust you should be fine.

Now here's the difficult part, my kink is very odd and some people may even consider it gross. I am aroused by mud, that gooey stuff that happens when it rains, Yeah that stuff. which poses a difficult question for me if I feel attraction/arousal, not from a person but from an object or a state of being, and I "lust" for it is it a sin. the reason I quoted lust is that lust is generally used in the context of lusting for someone and or something and thus does it apply in this circumstance or is it truly lust? and if I act on this "lust" and go and be near or be in the mud and I receive gratification for it is that immoral? Is the fact that I am gratified by the act and or the presence of the material and it is in a sexual context wrong?

Another question, this one is about pornography. If you see videos/pictures that are not meant to be arousing, but due to your kink it becomes arousing is that wrong? Is it your personal condemnation that causes it to become a sin?

Please do not judge me, I truly need answers to this question I have in my heart. I have had the attraction ever since I could remember, before puberty, before anything. I can remember this and I wonder is this something genetic, is it truly a kink or is it something else entirely. This is the one thing I have the most issue with on my walk with god because of its frequency and because I do not feel comfortable discussing it with my pastor, nor anybody I know due to the sensitivity of the topic and the awkwardness of the close relations I have with those people.

 

[MatthewG]

Do you put those things over your trust and faith in God, and the Lord Jesus Christ?

Does it become your idol you worship? is what I am saying.

I have no judgement really here on what you do or do not do. All us will be responsible for our lives when we pass away from this life on to God alone. Those would be two questions to consider asking ones self Daniel.

 

[EloyCraft]

A bad habit formed in childhood, especially before the age one is able to reason, even if grave, is not mortal because the criteria for mortal sin require that it's committed in full knowledge.and freedom. A habit formed so early is an obstacle to freedom. The force of habit could possibly diminish culpability to zero.

All that said I would consider the kink something that you should understand as an obstacle to fulfilling one of the purposes of sex in marriage. Sexual intimacy strengths the marital bond because it is a renewal of the vows when you give your bodies to each other.. The mud is getting between you and her. I think your conscience may be motivating your question anyway. Maybe? That would settle it.

I would think about not doing it but know It may never go away. You know like an alcoholic is always an alcoholic.
As far as kinks go........Yours is tame

 

[marks]

and if I act on this "lust" and go and be near or be in the mud and I receive gratification for it is that immoral?

Yes this is immoral, because it is not God's design for us.

Another question, this one is about pornography. If you see videos/pictures that are not meant to be arousing, but due to your kink it becomes arousing is that wrong? Is it your personal condemnation that causes it to become a sin?

No, it is wrong because it's not God's design for us.

Marriage is intended by God to be a picture of His relationship with His redeemed. Anything you add to it, or take away from it, changes that picture.

If you truly want to achieve purity, we can talk about that. But no, these things will take from you the goodness that God desires for you.

Much love!

 

[Lambano]

I've researched and the common consensus on kinks is that if it's with your spouse and you agree it's generally fine, for those who are not married it's tricky but so long as you don't lust you should be fine.

Question: Are you married? If so, how does your wife feel about it? If she's not okay with it, what then?

Good luck with the "don't lust" thing.