Have you ever read in Genesis when God Created Man and woman. It says this:
“Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.”
After the sinned they became Adam and Eve. The male and female was viewed the same.
But sin entered and changed things. Paul talks about how Eve was deceived and because of that her role was changed. Her desire was to be to Adam. You can read all of it in Genesis and what Paul writes about it.
And in Jesus the new Adam, we are returned to eating of the paradise of God and the tree of Life as overcomers (Rev 2:7).
So while we yet remain in our natural bodies, we do not remain in our naturally corrupt life. Headship remains for Christians, but not as before with sinners. We are not to abuse it nor rebel against it. It is a simple necessity in a corrupt world, where not all are saved, and many are against the faith and the life of Jesus.
And so, we are given power by God to behave ourselves in this world even as He does in heaven, 'thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven...' Husbands be heads over your own wives in this world, even as God is head of Christ in heaven, and wives submit yourselves to your own husbands even as Christ submits to God.
Many people preach husbands are to be heads over the wives '
even as Christ is Head of the church' and stop there. And plenty of people have very messed up ideas about how Jesus
acts as Head of the church. They only see a dominating Lordship and an often grudging obedience
on pain of death, which is not the equally godly relationship with Christ and His Head God.
You telling me you never heard nor experienced abusive husbands upon the wife, with the
excuse of being head
and lord over her, as Jesus over His church? Or grudging rebellious wives who only 'obey', because of God's wrath?
Headship remains of necessity in this world for Christians, so that one of the two, the man, will be called to answer for all decisions they made
mutually. And the reason for that is Eve was deceived in the transgression, but Adam was not. Adam knew
exactly what was going on and failed to prevent it, but Eve really was convinced she would become as a god. Authority as head over another is a God-like authority that is not to be abused, and must be answered for by someone who
knows what they are talking about, and is not deceived by the lure of acting like a god, the man.